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Sex Amma: Hitting it off with my best friend’s boyfriend.

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Dear Sex Amma!

I met my best friend’s boyfriend at a party and we seemed to hit it off. One thing led to another and we did it that night. It was amazing and both of us agreed that it was the best we ever had. We have this incredible chemistry in bed, what do I do?

Ohh my sweet machhi! Your question has truly upset Amma. The only two things Amma always advises against are breaking someone’s heart and letting go of a dosa that fully satiates your idli.

It is great for you to meet someone you really connect and have a blazing chemistry with. But you have to realise that what you have done is essentially wrong on your part for your best friend. Cheating is one ingredient that turns the whole mixture bad. This also means that the boyfriend has wronged your friend, proving his infidelity. Macchi, always remember, good friends are scarce in life and a ruined friendship is always almost irredeemable. This is why Amma advises you to come clean to your friend and tell her the truth, even if it breaks her heart.

It’s okay to get involved and have fun with someone, but it’s wrong when that someone is already with another person. Please tell your friend the truth and talk to her boyfriend as well. Decide what both of you want, whether it was just a fun night or you both want to continue seeing each other. It will get awkward, but it’s a necessary task to clean up the mess that has been created.

Finally little machhi, it’s a valuable lesson learnt. Don’t ever push away your friends or ruin friendships over boys, because lovers might be fleeting but friends are for life!

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Sex Amma: She wants to take it slow!

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Q. Hi Sex Amma, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we’ve barely hit third base. I understand that she wants to take it slow and I don’t want to pressurize her, but of late, the frequency is decreasing!

Sex Amma: Oh my dear uttapam, Amma knows the plague that infests the minds of men in this country. Hitting the third base in a cricket crazy nation is all that men want, ignoring the weather and pitch conditions, thus getting out on the very first ball or eventually getting forced to play defensive.
Amma appreciates the fact that you understand that your macchhi wants to take it slow. The decreasing frequency suggests that the macchhi is either feeling guilty or has gotten scared due to the misunderstandings and taboo that accompany sex in our beloved nation. In any case, the solution is: communication.
You need to sit her down in an environment where she can speak to you about anything. And, if it’s a biological reason, then be a strong fisherman, be there for your macchhi and support her through the tough time. Build a strong bridge of communication and trust, and Amma guarantees you’ll start scoring again, singles and doubles at first, of course. Don’t lose your patience, else you’ll misjudge the ball and will be ‘caught’ out.

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Sex Amma: My boyfriend loves porn but I can’t stand it

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Q. My boyfriend loves to watch porn and every time we get intimate he tells me to watch it too and learn new things. He remains very unsatisfied with our time, but I dislike porn. I just can’t stand watching it. How can I make him see the other way?

A. Ayyioo!

My naughty idlis caught in a mix of curries!

First things first, it’s completely okay to have different views from your partner on this one. The adult industry is made for entertainment and you have the right to not like it, so it’s perfectly alright to not watch it. Porn films, like any other media these days, are all about putting up a show, so don’t expect the things you see online to happen in a real situation. They are educational for some or can be just entertainment, but unrealistic expectations from porn should not be borne into real life situations.

Real life intimate situations can take on many shapes, believe Amma! Whatever your recipe is for dosa making, the end product should always be a feeling of mutual respect and fun. This can only be the case if you both are comfortable with each other. Your partner’s dissatisfaction can be helped if you both talk about each other’s likes and dislikes and reach a common ground. Do get to know more about each other’s preferences and do not give in to the digital image of sex.

As Amma always says, communication is the key, my idli! Feel comfortable and get naughty; introducing new spices into your dosa batter is never a bad idea. So try what you can and remember to always be safe.

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Sex Amma: I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we’ve barely hit third base.

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Q. Hi Sex Amma, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we’ve barely hit third base. I understand that she wants to take it slow and I don’t want to pressurize her, but of late, the frequency is decreasing!

A: Oh my dear uttapam, Amma knows the plague that infests the minds of men in this country. Hitting the third base in a cricket crazy nation is all that men want, ignoring the weather and pitch conditions, thus getting out on the very first ball or eventually getting forced to play defensive.

Amma appreciates the fact that you understand that your macchhi wants to take it slow. The decreasing frequency suggests that the macchhi is either feeling guilty or has gotten scared due to the misunderstandings and taboo that accompany sex in our beloved nation. In any case, the solution is: communication.

You need to sit her down in an environment where she can speak to you about anything. And, if it’s a biological reason, then be a strong fisherman, be there for your macchhi and support her through the tough time. Build a strong bridge of communication and trust, and Amma guarantees you’ll start scoring again, singles and doubles at first, of course. Don’t lose your patience, else you’ll misjudge the ball and will be ‘caught’ out.

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Sex Amma: My boyfriend confessed cheating on me

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Q.  Hello Sex Amma,

I have been dating this guy for almost a year now, and he recently confessed cheating on me once, when he was drunk. Though I’m ready to forget it and move forward, he says he can’t even face me after what he has done. Please suggest what should I do?

A. My stuck little macchi, Amma has always advised the people of the backwaters never to commit the mistake of cheating!

It is very progressive of you to understand that mistakes can be done when one is under intoxication. But you have to understand that sometimes the other person might not be able to forgive themselves. Amma can see the puttu being split in only two ways. First, your boyfriend can be true to his word and genuinely feels ashamed and the other is that he might be looking at ways to break up with you. Either way my little idli it’s hard to accept the fact that he can’t be with you anymore.

It is Ammas’ advice that you talk to him honestly and let him know how much you still care and are ready to move forward, if he is. If things do not work out then don’t despair my macchi. There are many deserving fish out in the lagoons!

 

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Sex Amma: My girlfriend doesn’t respond when we are intimate

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Q. My girlfriend is a very strong and independent person. But she changes when we are intimate, she becomes inanimate and non participative. It makes me feel very odd and leaves me to do all the work. I don’t understand what happens to her. Please advice, Amma.

 

A. My sweet uppam, the thing about us humans is that we are all very complicated beings, we might appear to be hard and strong on the outside, but when faced with intimacy, we might turn out to be tender and sweet.

My little idli, maybe your strong girlfriend has a sweeter, more private side to herself. Most people regard being intimate as a deep emotional journey they undertake and it makes you feel even closer. But that often also means giving them time to come out of their shells and developing a comfort zone with you. The next time you decide to be warm and cozy, sit her down and talk to her heart to heart, about things she is comfortable doing and the things you both would like to do. Build a bond where you know just what works for your partner and what does not through communication.

Finally, just be honest with her and encourage her to do the same. Talk to each other, lay down some mutual rules and just have fun my idlies. Don’t think too much and let your feelings guide you, the mind will follow.

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Sex Amma: Crushing on a teacher!

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Dear Amma, I am in a girls’ college and that means very less interaction with the opposite sex on a daily basis. Well, I think I have a thing for this male teacher. I find him so cute and he is very intelligent and attractive. There are times when I feel like making an advance, despite knowing that it is wrong and against all moral codes. He is not very old too, and has just started teaching. I can’t seem to be able to help it. Please tell me how to cope with this.

 

Amma can never find a question from you confused little machhis that doesn’t make her nostalgic! I believe that having a crush on a teacher is an inevitable feeling that everyone goes through. Amma went to an all girls’ college too and can relate very well with you. Oh the fantasies I had of my teacher!

Go ahead, have a crush on him, dream about him and I’m pretty sure you stare at him in the corridors too! Don’t make him uncomfortable though. Amma firmly believes that the fantasies about teachers should be only that, fantasies. Even if he is not much older than you are, there is a line that must not be crossed little idli! It is very unprofessional and will put him in a difficult situation, for he has much to lose in case anything goes wrong. Once you pass out though, you could see if he’s available and “make your moves”. Until then, keep calm and keep on crushing!

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Sex Amma: Where can I make out with my girlfriend?

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Dear Amma, I’m a college student and I live with my parents. It’s very difficult for me and my girlfriend (who also lives with her folks) to find places to get it going. Please suggest some places where we can go to make out or take it a bit further, if you know what I mean.

Uff my desperate little machhi! If you lived in the greenery of my sweet Kerala, you would have no worries for you could go boating in the backwaters! And my naive idli, I always know what you mean!

But, talking about Delhi, Amma has stolen kisses in the stairs of abandoned buildings. The third floor of Rugby Sevens in the North Campus is a great place, if ever you get a chance to go in. It’s normally deserted, but you might find a dog or occasional person there, so you might have to make a run for it, but it’s mostly safe. If your parents have endowed you with a car, make use of it, or just borrow a friend’s car. Got some friends living in PGs? Ask them for a favour. Make use of the terrace at your place, or hers. Elevators are a world-renowned making-out spot. Then there’s always that deserted movie hall you could go to! Go have fun, you little honey-buns!

 

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Sex Amma: Parents walking in at the wrong moment?

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Dear Amma, I’m an eighteen year old boy who has never had a lot of female friends. I finally have a girlfriend now but I’m scared to bring her home. I don’t know how to go about the ‘deed’. And wait! What if my parents walk in or catch us? It happened with a friend of mine and ever since then, I’m really worried about this. I’m excited yet nervous at the same time. Help!

Aiyyo rama! You poor macchi, so stressed! Now that you finally have your share of idlis in your life, why so scared? The deed is easy, if you and your girlfriend are comfortable and relaxed! You have already fallen off the tree. Just make your way through the sands of this beach to the right location. All will be fine.  Once under the cover, the dosa itself figures out the way.. And your rajni will be happy, aiyyo. Don’t worry so much, this is supposed to be fun, remember?

As for parents walking in? Why would you bring her over when your parents are at home? Not wise, little idli. Parents are anyway very suspicious of what their kids are up to. Add a girlfriend in your room in the mix? All hell might just break lose. Think about it, will you be able to relax, knowing that your parents are in the next room?  Plan a little ahead, make sure you two are alone and have enough time to yourselves.

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Sex Amma: She refuses to go all the way

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Q. Dear Amma, I am in a friends-with-benefits relationship with a girl. We make out a lot, and we quite like it. But she is not open to going all the way and I am desperate to do it. She keeps telling me it should be with somebody I love, but I can’t help hoping. What do I do? Please help.
 
A. Aiiyyoo, my little macchi-out-of-water! First of all, congratulations on finding another out-of-water macchi! I find these relationships a blessing from the Heavens. You don’t have to climb the coconut tree to get the coconut; it just comes to you, no strings attached!
 
About your little trouble in paradise, you must respect her decision. Maybe she is saving herself for her perfect coconut!  You could try expressing your desperate need to her while sipping delicious coconut water from the same coconut but little macchi do not force her. The lady macchi will swim away before you can say rawa idli.
 
If nothing works my  steamy plate of Puliyodharai, there are plenty more fish in the backwaters of Kerala, and around you. Since it is just a casual fling, go steam your idlis elsewhere!
 
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