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Q. Dear Amma, I have heard a lot about oral sex and I want to try it too but my girlfriend is not too keen. Amma, how do I convince her for oral sex?

Well, that was rather to the point. The number of times Amma has been asked this question is both amusing and sad! Having been at the receiving end and knowing fully well how great oral feels for either parties, trust me, my heart goes to your dosa.

Now, coming to your problem, the first and most important thing to remember is that any kind of ultimatum or pressurizing is a bad idea. Definitely steer clear of any “If you love me you’ll go down on me” kinda dialogues, okay? If you pressurize her, it’s probably not going to lead to a good outcome because even if she agrees, she’ll do it half heartedly and since you’ll know she dislikes it, you won’t have a good time either (yes, that is possible).

Instead, talk to her about it in an open and calm way.

Tell her that you’d want her to at least try it once and that you’ll make the whole affair much more comfortable for her.

(This includes maintaining proper hygiene, not rushing her or moving her head too much while she’s at it!) You could also try perfecting your skills at giving oral!

If she still doesn’t seem to want to go for it, don’t push it, little idli. There are a lot of other things you can try in bed. If you really have your dosa set on this though, and feel unfulfilled, you should consider moving on. (But again, don’t use this as an ultimatum either.)

Aamir Khan, the Bollywood superstar widely acclaimed for his work was recently in Delhi in relation to one of the episodes of his show Satyamev Jayate. This particular episode dealt with the homosexual and transgendered community in India. Post the show, our writers Ishika Gupta and Priyanka Banerjee caught up with him to discuss this matter, his show and more.

Ishika: Hi Aamir, thanks for joining us for an interview!

Aamir: Pleasure.

Ishika: Taking over from where the show left, I was wondering that when your team was researching for the show, did you come across any startling facts or any particular case study or example that hit you emotionally and made you take up this topic to portray to a national audience?

Aamir: There are two parts to your question. One is why did we pick up this topic and whether there was any story that touched me.

First, I’ll tell you why we picked up this topic. You know, I feel that this is a topic that is not understood well enough. I did a film called Taare Zameen Par some years ago. I felt that there was no other film that highlighted the issues of learning disabilities or dyslexia. Even people from the education system, a very small percentage of people, at that time, very few really knew what a learning disability is. Taare Zameen Par was a film that actually really helped a lot of people understand what dyslexia is which is why I believe this topic is so important.

The topic of homosexuality is as important in India but because people have a lot of wrong information, lot of myths about gays, lesbians, alternate sexual preferences. And so it is important to try and unravel the facts behind it, understand it better and then put it to people. Because there is a huge population, certainly a minority but still a significant minority of people in every society, no matter where we look at in the globe, where you have people with a different sexuality and unusual sexuality.

It is roughly 10 percent and 10 percent is a big section of the population. In India, we don’t have the numbers because since it is illegal, people don’t come forward and express that ‘yes, I am homosexual or gay or whatever’, because I’ll be arrested after that, you know I could be arrested. Now, we don’t have the numbers in India, therefore, we thought here we have a topic, which is important, which needs to be addressed, which people need to speak up about, and we need to stop feeling scared of this. So that’s why we really picked it up.

In terms of the story, I have to say that all the stories we saw today on the show, each one of them, touched me very, very deeply. Ghazal’s story is so beautiful, I mean her parents are so amazing, the most amazing parents, so supportive. Remember that they come from a conservative background, but the amount of love they have for their child was so unconditional, so that’s a very touchy story.

I think even Divya’s story was very, very moving, a woman who is married and likes her husband and it takes her a while to come to terms with the fact that she has a preference for the same sex, it takes her a while to come to terms with the fact that she is a lesbian. Normally people have this impression that a lesbian is someone who is a very bold girl, who is very forward, who is a rebel, who has got purple hair or something!  Divya is a woman who is very average, someone who could be your neighbour, who realizes that. So I found her story moving and the fact that her husband was so supportive and understood. And when all of us understand one very basic thing that something we are born with, something that’s how nature intended us to be, each one of us is different. When we come to terms with that, a lot of pre-conceived notions will disappear.

Priyanka:  Recently, an option of the including a third gender has been introduced in Delhi University’s admission forms. For post-graduate courses it has been started already and for undergraduate admissions it will begin from next year. So that’s taken care of it officially. What would your advice be for college students who want to create a strong and supportive peer groups for this community? What suggestions would you have?

Aamir: That’s a big step. That’s a very big step. I am very pleased to hear that Delhi University is doing this. I think that every student, every individual who believes in humanity, who believes that every human being has the right to be different and despite a person being different from me, you know has the same rights, same feelings, same emotions, same fears, same dreams.

If I believe in all of that, and as in India, I believe that we are all equal, I believe in all of these things, if I believe in the Constitution of India, then I should also accept that everyone has a right to be there.

And therefore, people who think this way and believe this way, they can come together to support those people. I may not be a homosexual, but I want to be part of a group who supports the minority, who sometimes feels weak.

Ishika: The show as always is doing a commendable job at bringing to notice social issues which are pertinent to the nation.  As the show proceeds you show examples and case studies and towards the end where you suggest some practical solutions to the problems discussed. So does the SMJ team itself make a conscious effort to implement those solutions that you suggested and also, how do you measure the impact that the show had on the audience?

Aamir: At the Satyamev Jayate team, we definitely live by what we believe. So, we live with the same principles for ourselves. Measuring impact is something very difficult, I don’t know how to do it quite honestly. I don’t know how to do it in an organized way. So in a disorganized way we do come to believe that. After season one when our team went out to research season two, wherever our team went they were told ‘Aap SMJ team se hain, humare gaon main yeh hua, humare mohallle mein yeh hua, humare sheher main yeh hua, kahin pe dawaiyon ki dukaan kholi hai humne’. So you know, we kept hearing these things without really going out to look for the stories. A lot of stories have changed, if you go to our website, which is www.satyamevjayate.in, you will see 50-60 odd such stories.

Sometimes the change has been very big. For example, there have been times when people in administration have taken strong steps.

 

In Madhya Pradesh, the head secretary saw the episode on healthcare and decided to get generic medicines to the people in Madhya Pradesh after the show was aired. And today in MP, medicines are free of cost, for everyone!

 

Ishika and Priyanka: Wow!

Aamir: Everyone who wants to make use of medicines, generic medicines that are being offered, they are free of cost. So imagine a person who at one point could not afford medicines for himself or herself or her child, now has access to medicines and the entire state has done that so it’s a big change to bring to people’s lives. In Gwalior, for example, the Collector saw our show and decided to make Gwalior disabled-accessible. So, 95% of Gwalior is accessible to disabled people, which is another big step. The entire city has changed in that aspect.

40 lakh children reached out for help to after our episode on child sexual abuse when we put out the number of child rights helplines. 40 lakh children reached out for help, it’s a big number. That’s disturbing also that 40 lakh children need help but at least those 40 lakh children could reach out and get help because of that information now available to them.

Priyanka: SMJ routinely brings to light a lot of important issues, and though you receive a lot of appreciation, I am sure there is still a segment that will not be very appreciative of the work that you are doing through SMJ. So, how do you handle this negativity?

Aamir: With love, with love. You see the thing is that you have to understand is that there are people with different opinions and I understand that there are some people who benefit from the status quo. Let’s take road accidents for example, now there are a lot of things happening with the heavy vehicles’ transport industry or the working of it which are not right, because of which there are accidents happening. Now, of course there are economic ramifications of those things. Overloading for example- Supposing I were a truck driver, why would I overload my truck? Because I want to earn more, of course. If I decide that I am not going to overload that means that I am deciding to earn less. So I may not want a new law, which really punishes me very badly if I overload. I don’t want that change, because it doesn’t benefit me. So I will protest and say, nahi nahi yaar yeh sab kya dikha rahe ho? (chuckles)

So every topic will have certain number of people, 99% of people will want change, 1% of people will not want change because that change is not benefitting them, it is benefitting the 99% people. So, those people are going to be there. I feel we must reach out to them as well and tell them ‘Yaar let’s change’, India has a lot to achieve and we will achieve that if we do the positive things.

Ishika: To conclude the interview, I would like to ask you one last question, which is that a large section of the population is the youth in our country, so can you suggest 3 practical ways in which the youth can proactively work towards the social issues which are there in the society and how we can make an impact and bring about solutions to these problems?

Aamir: Hmmm..I am not quite sure what that advice would be. I genuinely believe that each one of us has to be that change that we want to see happen. I have to be that change. So the first big thing that any one of us can do, whether we are youth or we are not a part of the youth, even an elderly person can do that is get yourself to change and that is I think the biggest thing any one of us can do. So, other than that, I think going out to help people, thinking of others, especially those who are less privileged than us, is something that I would strongly urge the youth to move towards.

You know my Mom always said that the biggest thing that you can do is a bring a smile on someone’s face and reach out to help people and if that’s something that the youth also starts doing, which I am sure a lot of youngsters are already doing that, I don’t think that’s something I need to say to them. Quite honestly, I really don’t want to assume that I know what to tell the young people, it is very presumptuous of me to assume that I can tell the youth what to be doing. I think the youth is very intelligent, very smart, and we see that the way the youth react to a show like SMJ, which is not an entertainment show.

Aamir: So it just shows that the youth is very aware and very sorted and I don’t need to tell them much actually, quite honestly.

Ishika: Since you’re quite an influential speaker and a leader so if you tell the youth what to do, I am sure it would have a big impact!

Aamir: I mean I don’t want to tell the youth what to do but I can tell them what I do. And I feel that the few things that I believe in, one of them is if I can give happiness, see happiness is something that I can get, it’s the only thing I can get , if I give it. So if I give happiness, only then will I get it. So that’s one thing I believe in.

The other thing I believe in is that never compromise with your dreams.

Your dreams may seem impossible to achieve, but hang onto your dreams, work towards them, and never compromise with your dreams, you may compromise to achieve your dream, I may have to compromise on one or two things to achieve those dreams, but never compromise the dream itself. And believe in hope. Be positive, things will happen.

Ishika and Priyanka: Thank you so much for joining us for the interview!

 

Started in 2001, Harvard US-India Initiative (HUII) was initially a student led organization aimed at bringing together youth from India and US to foster growth and address the most pressing matters of Indian politics, economy, culture and society. Having already encompassed memberships from five countries and 15 different colleges, HUII conference team has been organizing chapters and annual conferences about Indian development not just at Harvard but also at SRCC and SPJMR. It aims to provide a platform to the youth to discuss issues and provide solutions, to the youth who are willing to bring change to their nation. The core of their ideology is investment in future.

This time HUII is holding its largest youth conference at Hotel Shangri-La, New Delhi on 9th and 10th January 2015. With an aim to discuss the multiple aspects of India’s past and future, the conference will be hosting 450 students from high schools and universities from across the world. These participants will choose to attend 5 out of 20 sessions on offer, ranging from Indian political drama to economic severity to the cultural vastness and social domain of our nation.

Registrations for the conference are now open, but getting selected is no cakewalk.

An online application taking a detailed account of your contribution to your educational institutions and future plans will be studied and on the basis of merit, the cream of the lot will be selected as delegates. In fact, to ensure that the brightest minds do get an opportunity to attend the forum, financial aid will be provided to those that require it.

Besides the panels, a case study competition will also be organized, the winner of which will be awarded the annual HUII Recognition Award for Best Entrepreneurial Potential along with some prize money. The concluding event is set to a meet-and-greet networking event and a social to garner better understanding between the participants.

To register for the conference, follow the link:
http://www.harvardindiainitiative.com/#!registration/con8

Ayesha Sareen
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Winter is fast approaching, and so is the season of music festivals, gigs and concerts. It is the perfect time to sweat it out by dancing, jumping and head-banging in the cold weather. Let us look at the three main gigs you can look forward to in the coming months:

Bacardi NH7 Weekender 2014
If you are not enthusiastic about this gig, then you are surely missing out on life. Probably the most happening multi – genre music festival in the country, NH7 Weekender never seizes to amaze me, nor will it seize to amaze you.
Scheduled days – November 29th and 30th
Venue – Buddha International Circuit, Greater Noida
Under 21 Passes: Rs.1750
Major artists by genre
– Metal – Skyharbor, Fear Factory, Bhayanak Maut, Collosal Figures
– Indie Rock – The Vaccines, Dinosaur Pile- Up, Motopony, The F16s, The Supersonics, The Ganesh talkies
– Hindi Rock – Amit Trivedi, Indian Ocean’s Tandanu, The Raghu Dixit project, Hoirong
– Electronic – Dualist Inquiry, Sandunes Ensemble, Killwish, Curtain Blue, KAOS
– Assorted –Nicholson, Barmer Boys, Monica Dogra

David Guetta India Tour 2014
It is a dream for a lot of people to see this dance-music giant perform in the national capital. Garnering hits after hits on every song that he puts out into the music community, David Guetta is arguably one of the most popular DJs in the world. Missing him play live would be wasting a once in a decade opportunity.
Scheduled Day – 19th December
Venue –To be announced
Passes : Rs.3000-7000

VH1 Supersonic Arcade 1
You would definitely want to be a part of the audience for this gig. Steve Aoki, one of the trending internet musicians who are dishing our hit after hit in the electronic music scene is going to perform in the national capital. He is the founder of the famous indie rock label Dim Mak Records and is a popular electronic music figure himself.
Scheduled Days – 16th January 2014
Venue: To be announced
Passes: Starts from Rs.1000

Ishaan Sengupta
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The Delhi University semester exams for all courses are about to begin. Barely a month or so is left for preparation as the date sheet hails the advent of papers at the end of the coming November.

With our DU lecturers winding up their respective syllabus and holding extra classes, you will start noticing unfamiliar faces visiting libraries now. Important notes are being chased and copied, lectures that were bunked due to various prior engagements are being greatly missed, the number of ‘subject related doubts’ slowly increase to a helpless level; all in all every students will find this month a bit short.

The key to success here is to maintain your cool and study systematically for the coming tests. The idea here is not how many hours you spend burning your eyes in books, but how much can you understand enough to produce on the answer sheet. It’s never ‘how long’ one studies, but ‘how’ they study matters!

The only bunch of students who appear to really enjoy this times of the year, are the ones who have already completed their syllabus twice and are now just revising!

Nevertheless, I am sure that somebody who even starts now from the scratch can do fairly well in the exam with devoting four to five hours daily for a month.

One habit of students that I think does not help in any way for the preparation is the over-consumption of coffee in order to stay awake all night to study. Please understand- getting addicted to coffee will only bless you with sore puffy eyes and nothing else. Coffee actually slows the blood circulation in your body, eventually hampers the oxygen carrying capacity of the vessels to your brain. Too scientific? Eh? But it’s evidently true!

Coffee is harmless if taken twice a day or so. But continuous intake of it every hour to stay wake, is not reasonable in any way. Your mind requires a daily seven hour sleep to be fit and attentive enough to study longer. Taking short power naps is again a very healthy practice during preparations. In this way you will not feel sleepy at night and can continue studying till late as desired.

Start your preparations early and stay cool! Best of luck to fellow DU students!

Surbhi Sharma
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Beyond the Cliché is increasingly difficult to write from a general perspective considering the dynamic nature of the subject, so we’ll discuss it in a way that we can break out of the Delhi University stereotypes of the subject. Students today largely get divided into two sets – Masters in Economics and Placements. These placements are generally consulting, finance and business analyst profiles. So let’s delve into a few possible alternatives that stem from the subject Environmental Economics This subject/profession requires individuals to study the impact of our species on the environment in economic terms. They combine the use of economic knowledge like data analysis and mathematical models with environmental science and management.


  Public Policy This can in turn be linked to the idea of political economics as well at some level as it involves the study of public policy on economics and vice versa. It requires individuals to pursue a Masters in Public Policy after pursuing their degree in Economics.
  Healthcare Economics majors abroad often pursue courses that provide them with the necessary skills to apply economic theory in the field of medicine. This involves working on healthcare policy, administration or pharmaceuticals. There exist multiple avenues for this in the government sector, academia as well as in the industry.
  Real Estate and Urban Planning Working in real estate and urban planning isn’t simply the domain of architects. There exist multiple points of entry for economics due to the large number of financial necessities that come into construction and sale of property.
  Business Analytics Apart from the fact that the Harvard Business Review called it the sexiest job of the 21st century, McKinsey Global Institute sighted a growing demand for individuals that can work with large amounts of data. This is a field where it is possible to work with technology giants like Google, finance companies like Vodafone and banks like Capital One.
  These are just some of the possible options that are available to students of Economics. With individuals like Daniel Kahneman and Thomas Piketty constantly pushing the borders, one cannot help but be inspired by the endless potential of the subject. ]]>

The increasing role of social networking sites in the lives of college students can’t be undermined. It is of utmost importance to remember that the content on the social media can profile other’s opinion and perception of you. Don’t assume that an employer will only be checking you out on LinkedIn. Potential employers keep track of your online persona, be it Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or Google+.

Social media sites become a key factor in the job search process by allowing the employers to get a peep of who the candidate is outside the boundaries of a resume or a cover letter. Even the employers provide crucial information about the companies that a job seeker should be aware of, the opportunity to connect with the other employees of the company. Also, one gets to know about the job openings right away from the profiles of these companies.

Half of all job seekers are active on social media sites on a daily basis, and more than a third of all employers make use of these sites in their hiring process. If you’re among the 89% of job seekers that use social networking sites, you’ll obviously want to be updated.

The optimistic part is that the hiring professionals are not just vetting your profiles online to find out the negative in you but they also look around for information that could give you a lead over others. Disappearing from the social networking sites by deleting all your accounts or setting extreme privacy settings may create an image that you have something to veil. Your profiles should give an precise depiction of who you are.

Deactivate your accounts from the sites that are not used frequently and are no longer useful

Ever so often, the employers choose to hire because the candidate’s profile conveys a professional image or the employer sees a positive attitude in the candidate’s personality depicted by his profile. Also, other people posting great references about the candidate help in making a positive image. While, some of the reasons why the employer decided not to offer the job may be because the candidate bad mouthed previous employers, lied about his /her qualifications or the profile showed poor communication skills.
Consider what social networking sites you use regularly and are necessary indeed! All I want to say is that you should create an affirmative and professional online presence by modifying your accounts on the social networking sites.

Wenger’s Bakery is perhaps one of the oldest and most well known confectioneries in New Delhi, and right around the corner, one shop away from the mighty Keventers is Wenger’s Deli. This week, we decided to see for ourselves if the Deli does in fact live up to the Wenger’s name.

Location and Ambience:

Situated in A block, Connaught Place, Wenger’s Deli is easy to reach and locate. The almost rustic charm of the bakery and a perpetually lively atmosphere make Wenger’s hard to miss. The Deli itself is a tiny outlet, with seating space for only about 8- 10 people. It looks tidy and hygienic, thanks to an open kitchen and neatly organized rows of delicious looking desserts.

Menu and Food:

The menu at Wenger’s Deli is made up of a wide range of salads, burgers, paninis, waffles, shakes and verrines.. We ordered a Peri Peri Chicken Panini, and a Penne Arrabiata Chicken along with Silken Chocolate and Mocha shakes and a strawberry smoothie. Everything tasted really fresh and well made. While the mocha shake was slightly disappointing, the strawberry smoothie turned out to be a winner. The Panini, which is basically a grilled sandwich with an interesting bread/ bun, took us by surprise. It was quite wholesome and had us fighting over for the last bite.

Service and Value for Money:

The Deli is a self- service restaurant, and our order was ready in a few minutes. The giant glass panels allow you to watch the master bakers at play in the kitchen, and also to keep track of your order. The menu is well- priced, with almost no item exceeding 200/- . One can satiate a hungry stomach, complete with a smoothie and a dessert at less than Rs. 500.

Final Verdict:

If you are looking to grab a quick bite and are tired of the same old fast food chains, this is definitely a place to visit. There is quite a lot on the menu to choose from, but not enough sitting space, so make sure you don’t come with a huge group.

Shaheed Bhagat Singh College, a co-educational institute established in 1967 is one of the fastest growing off-campus colleges of Delhi University. Named after one of the greatest freedom fighters the country was blessed with, SBSC is among the top five colleges in the university for Commerce with its final cut-offs touching the 95% mark. The College is situated in Sheikh Sarai Phase II with College of Vocational Studies as its neighbour. As soon as you enter the premises of the college, you are greeted with a statue of late freedom fighter Shaheed Bhagat Singh.

Other than commerce, the college is known for its Arts courses as well. With projectors in lecture halls, a double story library and two computer labs, SBSC gives an impression of being well equipped and modernized.

The college is quite active culturally too. The Drama society can be seen practicing day in and day out in the lawns, regardless of the weather, and never fail to make the college proud at inter-college events. The other active societies such as the photography, music, dance, commerce and economics societies, among many others keep the students busy all round the year taking part in fests and hosting events. The college also has facilities to serve sports such as basketball, tennis, football and cricket to keep the athletic bunch happy.

Though, one of the downsides is that the college requires a much needed auditorium and a parking area, which the previous student unions have been demanding for ceaselessly. The commencement of each year brings a renewed hope of either one wish being granted.

Coming to the most important part, food; the college’s canteen fares well when it comes to serving mouth watering dishes. ‘Anna ki canteen’ can never fail to rescue the hungry young kids with delicious food from multiple cuisines (sounds fancier than it is). Also, right outside the college, students can be found chilling at Chacha ki dukaan (a small eatery which serves mouth-watering rolls), the juice stalls or at Café Motto right opposite CVS. And if you get bored of that, then Select City walk is just 10 bucks away (those shared autos are life-savers for SBSCians).

The economical morning show at PVR Saket is the favourite option for the college kids here to pass their spare time between classes. Well, if you don’t feel like going out you can grab a Samosa and just sit and chat under the tree behind the canteen which seems to accommodate half of the college. Everyone seems to have their own fixed spot in and around the campus and can always be found there.

The truth is that SBSC is one of the most easy going colleges in the University where students know very well how to have fun during their three years but at the same time realize when it is time to step into the library and be prepared for the semester exams storm coming their way.