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Indian students’ solidarity on Palestine can make a difference. But when does our solidarity matter less than what side of the line we’re speaking from?

From the pouring of fake ‘blood’ on the steps of Kamla Nagar’s Starbucks to chants of “Free Palestine” at protest marches, Delhi’s student body has been at the forefront of protest in support of Palestine. With estimated death tolls crossing sixty thousand in Gaza and a collapsing health and food situation, keeping the Palestinian issue alive through active engagement is critical. However the entire narrative around a Free Palestine has become more and more politicised. One cannot shirk the feeling that the term ‘Free Palestine’ is at risk of becoming a buzzword.

Today, a watermelon emoji next to your social media account is not just a symbol of solidarity. It also connotes a political identity, often linked to left or centre-left student groups. This is evident in the actions of outfits like AISA and SFI, which have consistently organised marches and protests supporting Palestinian rights. In May 2024, AISA held a candlelight march in Delhi condemning Israeli airstrikes and demanding an end to the siege of Gaza. Similarly, IPSP coordinated protests on Global Action Days, to highlight the humanitarian crisis and support the Boycott, Divestment, Sanctions (BDS) movement. The SFI-organised Campus Pride Parade last week also echoed “From the River to the Sea, Palestine Will be Free.” These efforts certainly succeed in bringing people together in support of Palestine but tend to do so under a coloured banner.

The pushback from right-wing student groups has been no less. In April this year, ABVP members at Jawaharlal Nehru University burnt the Palestinian flag during student election vote counts, deeming Palestine activism anti-national. Even more recently, ABVP activists vandalised a Palestinian flag mural at the University of Hyderabad, sparking widespread condemnation from other student bodies.

In this backdrop, an Indian student finds their opinion on the issue a mark of their political affiliation. It isn’t feasible to be an active Palestine supporter in DU without finding yourself associated with the left or losing affiliation with the right. For those keeping distance from both camps, it isn’t easy to join the movement strictly on humanitarian grounds without being questioned on their political standing. 

What should be a humanitarian cause gets caught in the conditionality of what beliefs entitle you to be a true supporter—and which ones you are now required to unsubscribe from.These watertight compartments, at some level, inhibit any real collaboration on global issues.

Palestine is undoubtedly political, but it is a politics far more important than any other politics we are fighting. A politics that needs solidarity.

Anjali Paruvu

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The principal of Ramanujan College, Delhi University, has been suspended following harassment allegations by a faculty member. A probe committee has submitted its report to the Vice-Chancellor, and the case will now be reviewed by the Internal Complaints Committee.

The principal of Ramanujan College, Delhi University, has been suspended after a faculty member accused him of harassment and misconduct. The complaint was filed on March 13, and the suspension was enforced on September 18 following the submission of a probe panel’s report.

University officials confirmed that a three-member committee was constituted to review the allegations. The panel’s findings have been placed before Vice-Chancellor Yogesh Singh and will now be examined further by the Internal Complaints Committee (ICC). The university has not issued an official statement on the matter so far.

The principal, meanwhile, has rejected the charges. In a letter addressed to the Prime Minister’s Office on September 13, he termed the allegations as “false, fabricated, politically motivated, and baseless.” He alleged the complaint was “a coordinated effort by the faculty member and her colleagues” to “discredit and remove” him, claiming it was filed soon after her promotion was withheld due to “incomplete documentation”.

He further stated that he has faced “immense mental, emotional, and professional distress” and sought protection against what he described as “malicious and politically driven harassment”. According to him, he was subjected to pressure to clear the promotion and was warned of being framed in a harassment case if he refused.

The principal also questioned the process, arguing that the complaint was not initially forwarded to the ICC as required under the UGC norms and the Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act. He alleged he was being compelled to resign under the threat of suspension.

“I have never indulged in any inappropriate conduct, sexual or otherwise, with any colleague or individual,” he wrote, appealing for the “dismissal of the unsubstantiated and manipulated charges.”

The ICC will now review the panel’s findings before the university announces its final decision.

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Richa Choudhary

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University of Delhi has revealed the official calendar for the election of office bearers of the Delhi University Students’ Union (DUSU) and Central Council members for the academic session 2025-2026. The announcement marks the beginning of one of the most dynamic and politically vibrant seasons of the academic year, with the election process scheduled to take place in September. 

The official notification issued by the Registrar sets 10th September, 2025, as the deadline for the submission of nomination papers, which must be filed by 3:00 p.m. and accompanied by a demand draft of Rs.500, alongside an affidavit, and a bond of Rs. 1 lakh. Scrutiny of nomination papers will take place the same day at 3:15 p.m., with the list of duly nominated candidates to be published at 6:00 p.m. For DUSU positions, nomination papers must be put in a sealed box located at the Office of the Chief Election Officer, Conference Centre, University of Delhi, North Campus. For Central Council elections, nominations must be filed with the respective college or department. Nomination forms can be accessed and downloaded from the official Delhi University Website. 

Candidates who wish to withdraw their nominations must do so by 11th September, 2025, before noon. The final list of candidates running for office will be published later that day at 5:00 p.m. The polling day is set for 18th September, 2025, followed by the counting of votes which will take place the next day on Friday, 19th September, 2025.

The voting process will be conducted in two stages. Students enrolled in day classes will vote during the window of 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. and those in evening classes must vote from 3:00 p.m until 7:30 p.m.

The notification further aligns itself with the Code of Conduct, DUSU Constitution, and court orders from the Supreme Court of India and the Delhi High Court. It reiterates that the procedure would be carried out in compliance with the Delhi Prevention of Defacement of Property Act (2007) and the National Green Tribunal guidelines. 

With the schedule now in place, the university is set to witness a charged election season, as student organisations and candidates prepare to campaign for leadership positions in one of the country’s most closely watched student political arenas. 

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Navya Chandok
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The Delhi University CSAS UG portal is now open, and the first allocation list of colleges has been released. Students can check their allotted college and course on the official website.

The CSAS portal for undergraduate programs released the 1st list for seat allocation at 5 P.M. on 19th July. Students can check their allotted college and course based on their preference list through the official website.

To view their allocation, students must enter their CUET UG application number and password. Thereafter, they must enter the login information to see the allocated college after carefully verifying the information. The candidates can further download information regarding their allotted college and course.

Along with the option of accepting the assigned college and course, students can also avail the option of upgrading. The second round of allocation with upgraded and fresh lists is expected to be out by 28th July. 

The schedule for the upcoming admission process is as follows,  

Event  Date
Declaration of FIRST CSAS Allocation List  5:00 pm Saturday, July 19, 2025
Candidates to ACCEPT the Allocated Seat 5:00 pm Saturday, July 19
till 4:59 pm Tuesday, July 22, 2025
College to VERIFY and APPROVE the online applications 5:00 pm Saturday, July 19
till 4:59 pm Tuesday, July 22, 2025
Last date of ONLINE PAYMENT of FEES by Candidates 5:00 pm Saturday, July 19
till 4:59 pm Tuesday, July 22, 2025
Display of vacant Seats on the dashboard of the candidates 5:00 pm Thursday, July 24, 2025
Window to Re-order Higher Preferences 5:00 pm Thursday, July 24
till 4:59 pm Friday, July 25, 2025
Declaration of SECOND CSAS Allocation 5:00 pm Monday, July 28, 2025
Candidates to ACCEPT the Allocated seat 5:00 pm Monday, July 28
till 4:59 pm Wednesday, July 30, 2025
College to VERIFY and APPROVE the online applications 5:00 pm Monday, July 28
till 4:59 pm Wednesday, July 31, 2025
Last date of ONLINE PAYMENT of FEES by Candidates 5:00 pm Monday, July 28
till 4:59 pm Friday, August 1, 2025

For more information you can refer to Delhi University’s official notice: https://admission.uod.ac.in/userfiles/downloads/18062025_CSAS-UG_compressed.pdf

Students are requested to stay updated and read the Bulletin of Information on the official website of the admission portal. Stay tuned for more information regarding Colleges and Courses.


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Arya Chaudhary
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Voting is seen almost as a rite of passage, especially for first-time voters, an act that makes one a political being. But how many students actually go to the booth and practice their right to vote? 

 

Voting is seen almost as a rite of passage, an act that makes one a political being. Casting one’s first vote is seen to transform a person from a passive resident to a citizen capable of critically understanding the country and imagining their vision for it. Voting is especially exciting for first-time voters, who are usually university students. University campuses, by their very nature, tend to be political spaces characterised by ideas, activism, and discourses. Each time during elections, political parties make a beeline for spaces dominated by younger people, like colleges, to tap into the ‘young vote bank.’ This especially holds true for India, which has one of the youngest populations in the world, with more than 43% of its population being below 24 years of age. From spirited debates to protests, the youth is at the heart of politics.

 

This, however, begs the question: how many students actually go to the booth and practice their right to vote? Do students transform their enthusiasm for lively political debates into the act of voting, or does apathy reign supreme? Talking to some students of Delhi University about their participation in the 2024 Lok Sabha elections reveals the shifting patterns of political participation and voting. 

 

To truly understand voting patterns among the country’s youth, we must go back in time and analyse these numbers historically. Statistically speaking, the share of the youth’s vote (18 to 25 years) saw a downward trend from 1996 onwards, when only 54% of people within that demographic voted, with an increase to 68% in 2014, followed by a dip to 67% in 2019. As Vibha Attri and Jyoti Mishra outline in their paper, ‘The Youth Vote in Lok Sabha Elections 2019,’ participation is lowest for young adults, peaks in middle age, and falls among the oldest.

 

This might be surprising to many, for in the aesthetic of Indian politics, students have always been painted as figures at the forefront—the idealised image of the student, especially one from a university like DU. In the popular imagination, they are seen as active, loud, and politically aware. However, when this image is put to a statistical test, it fails to hold up. The youth in the country are not voting in as big numbers as popularly believed. 

 

The reasons for this apathy are many. Some are logistical, while some are more about the disillusionment that often lurks around the idea of voting.

 

Stuti Prasad, a third-year student from DU who hails from Bihar, weighs in,

As someone who is from Bihar but living in Delhi for college, I was not able to vote in the 2024 elections due to mandatory attendance requirements, which forced me to stay in Delhi at the time of the elections. I felt it to be quite ironic that I wasn’t able to participate in the elections despite actively following the politics in Bihar.”

 

Another student from Lady Shri Ram College cast a vote for the first time in the 2024 general elections but faced difficulties due to the polling dates clashing with classes. 

 

The polling date for my constituency was the 26th of April, which was a working college day. I informed all of my professors that I would not be able to attend classes that day as I had to vote, but only one professor agreed to give me attendance provided I showed him the voting mark. A lot of students from my city simply opted not to vote as they would have to miss a lot of attendance.”

 

Missing out on attendance and logistical issues with voting while living in another city came out to be the top deterrents in casting a vote among students of Delhi University. However, there was also a general disillusionment and indifference to voting among the students as well. Many seem to believe that their vote doesn’t change anything and that taking an off or going to the booth was simply a waste of time. 

 

It didn’t really occur to me if people around me in college were voting or not. There was not a lot of discussion over it, and even if we did discuss it, people only asked each other if they were voting in passing,” reflects a second-year student. 

 

Voting is popularly coming to be seen as a rather personal act that must not warrant a lot of discussions. Many skirt around conversations regarding voting to avoid any sort of confrontation, and talking to students revealed that it is generally considered a social faux pas to prod people’s vote. While this used to be the case for avoiding asking people who they voted for, it seems to have extended to steering away from asking people if they participated in the elections altogether.

 

While the youth continues to play a pivotal role in electoral politics all over the world, the rates of their political participation are seeing a harrowing decline. Politicians continue to try to woo the younger voters by incorporating internet lingo and dangling promises of employment prospects; however, in the bigger executive stage, the younger population continues to be sidelined. The trend of political disenchantment and passivity among the young voters, especially the first-time voters, is very concerning and needs to be urgently addressed. The idealised image of the hot-blooded, young, active voter must not remain an archetype but must translate into voting numbers. 

 

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Disha Bharti

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Recent heavy rainfall in the capital on June 28 has exposed severe infrastructural issues, particularly at the Arts Faculty, where the reading room experienced significant water leakages and short circuits. Additionally, other esteemed educational institutes like IIT Delhi and AIIMS Delhi are also witnessing an equally miserable fate.

As Delhi University continues its yearly ritual of exorbitant fee hikes—110% in PhD courses and 40% in annual postgraduate courses—it is important to note that the condition in which DU students have to study remains deplorable. These problems clearly reflect the university’s incompetence and disregard for student safety.

The Students’ Federation of India (SFI) DU’s Instagram page, @sfiduspeaks, posted a reel highlighting the miserable state of one of India’s premier institutions. Captioned “Save Public Education! Save Delhi University! Fee Must Fall!”, the post called for immediate action from the university to address these infrastructural issues. SFI Vijay Nagar has also demanded urgent measures to fix these problems and ensure student safety, noting that the lack of basic amenities like air conditioning in classrooms becomes unbearable when temperatures in Delhi soar to 48 degrees Celsius. The third building, made with makeshift materials like tin roofs and asbestos-lined walls, exacerbates the heat issue, creating an uninhabitable learning environment.

Simran, from SFI DU, in a conversation with DU Beat, said, “Since there is no maintenance in these reading rooms at Arts Faculty, due to heavy rain, the ceiling started to leak and then a short circuit happened, and soon fire also occurred out of nowhere. The main problem is that despite increasing fees they are not improving infrastructure and maintenance at all.”

Additionally, a press release by SFI Delhi University, dated June 27, 2024, highlighted student protests against the fee hikes in postgraduate courses. Students criticized the apathetic Delhi University administration and the ABVP-led Delhi University Students’ Union (DUSU) for their silence on the rising education costs. It showcased how fee hikes place a heavy financial burden on students, undermining the principles of publicly funded education and limiting opportunities. Despite the fee hikes in previous academic years, there has been no corresponding improvement in infrastructure. Students of the well-known Law Faculty often find their campus without even a single functioning water cooler, all while bearing Delhi’s scorching heat.

In addition to Delhi University, other premier institutes in Delhi have also been severely affected by the heavy rainfall. AIIMS Delhi experienced similar issues with severe water leakage on June 28, highlighting the widespread infrastructural problems across top educational institutions in the city.

At IIT Delhi, a viral video showed a pillar collapsing in the placement cell building following the heavy rainfall. This incident led to the disconnection of electricity in some areas for safety reasons. An official email from the Institute Engineer detailed the flooding on campus and stated that maintenance teams are working to restore services. The email requested cooperation from the campus community and apologized for the inconvenience.

These incidents at Delhi University, AIIMS Delhi, and IIT Delhi highlight the urgent need for infrastructural changes and better maintenance protocols, it’s indeed high time that these educational institutes make upgrades to ensure the safety and well-being of their student body, who have come from faraway places in the country to study in “premier institutes” in the capital. Despite significant fee hikes, these institutions have failed to invest adequately in their infrastructure, leading to dangerous and unacceptable learning conditions. As students and stakeholders wonder, “Where is our money going?”, they are now demanding accountability and immediate improvements to their educational environments.

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Kavya Vashisht

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In a swift response, Delhi University takes action against a staff member accused of sexual harassment, reflecting a commitment to student welfare. As students rally for justice at the Central Institute of Education, officials ensure a thorough investigation by the Internal Complaints Committee, prioritizing safety and transparency.

The University of Delhi’s Establishment Branch has terminated the employment of a non-teaching staff member who was allegedly involved in the sexual harassment of a student at the Central Institute of Education (CIE) earlier this month. The incident occurred in the Department of Education’s new building, per the student’s official complaint with the Head and Dean of CIE. The defendant is alleged to have engaged in several inappropriate behaviors, such as unwanted approaches, invasive personal inquiries, and acts that created a great deal of discomfort and fear for the student’s safety.

The student has asked for her peers’ support, expressing how the encounter violated and deeply distressed her. She also expressed fear for her safety because the harasser was walking around the department unhindered. Students came together to plan a demonstration at CIE on Wednesday to support the student’s right to justice.

The Indian Express was notified by Pankaj Arora, Head and Dean of CIE, that the Internal Complaints Committee was notified of the student’s complaint as soon as it was received on Monday. The accused, who worked for the company under a contract, was let go early on Wednesday.

We have engaged in extensive discussions with the students and have assured them that the university’s ICC will handle the matter with care.” Arora said in response to the protest.

While the ICC investigates the case, questions remain about the student’s ongoing safety and the support system available. Did the University offer counselling services or connect her with external support groups specializing in trauma recovery? Transparency regarding the ICC process would also be beneficial. What are the expected timelines for the investigation? Are there resources readily available to explain the process to students involved in such cases?

The case is presently under review by the ICC, and until the process concludes, it would be challenging to disclose specific details of the proceedings.” said DU Proctor Rajni Abbi.

The Students’ Union or other student committees at CIE likely played a crucial role in supporting the student and organizing the protest. Including a statement from a student representative would amplify the students’ voice and highlight the collective stand against harassment. The incident serves as a stark reminder of the prevalence of sexual harassment in educational settings. By creating a culture of support, ensuring a fair and transparent investigation process, and implementing robust prevention programs, universities can foster safe learning environments where every student feels empowered and respected.

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Divya Malhotra

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JNU VC Santishree Dhulipudi Pandit emphasized that JNU was never anti-national, and the institution is not subjected to saffronization, following the University’s 20th ranking in QS World Rankings for development studies.

In a recent meeting with the editors of the Press Trust of India (PTI), Santishree Dhulipudi Pandit, the first female Vice-Chancellor of Jawaharlal Nehru University (JNU), addressed various aspects concerning the university’s current state and its past challenges. Ms. Pandit emphasized that despite speculations, JNU is not subjected to saffronisation or undue pressure from the Central Government in its daily operations. She asserted, “As a university, we should be above all this. JNU is for the nation, not for any particular identity.”

Acknowledging the presence of divisions on campus during her tenure, Ms. Pandit termed that period “unfortunate”. She attributed errors to both the administration and the students, acknowledging the mishandling of the situation by the leadership. 

I think that phase was bad, and there were mistakes on both sides, and because of polarization and the leadership not understanding… You have to understand that people will differ and argue. The university was never anti-national. When I studied (at JNU) it was the height of the Left’s dominance, even then nobody was anti-national.” – Ms. Pandit remarked.

Furthermore, she openly declared her affiliation with the Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS), stating that she neither conceals nor regrets it. 

Ms. Pandit reaffirmed JNU’s commitment to fostering dissent, discussion, and democracy, asserting that the university has never been “anti-national” or associated with the “tukde-tukde” gang. She stressed the university’s dedication to inclusivity and development, encapsulated in the seven principles of Development, Democracy, Dissent, Diversity, Debate and Discussion, Difference, and Deliberation.

Reflecting on her journey, Ms. Pandit shared details from her birth in St. Petersburg, Russia, to her upbringing in a middle-class South Indian family in Chennai. When she assumed the position of Vice-Chancellor in 2022, the University was grappling with student unrest, compounded by the aftermath of the 2016 incident involving purportedly anti-national slogans being raised on campus. 

I believe there was a phase of unfortunate ignorance on the part of the administration regarding JNU.”- she commented. 

Regarding this tumultuous phase, Ms. Pandit acknowledged mistakes on both sides and criticized the leadership’s attempt to control the situation, emphasizing the inevitability of disagreements and the importance of handling extreme viewpoints with understanding.

You have to accept that disagreements and arguments will arise. The college never held anti-national views. Even at the height of Left dominance, when I studied (at JNU), nobody was anti-national.” – Ms. Pandit reflected. 

The meeting concluded with Ms. Pandit’s reaffirmation of JNU’s commitment to its core principles and her dedication to steering the university towards inclusive growth and academic excellence.

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Divya Malhotra

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Naima Khatoon Gulrez, recently appointed as Aligarh Muslim University’s first female Vice Chancellor, faces controversy over her appointment amid allegations of nepotism. 

Naima Khatoon Gulrez, the principal of Aligarh Muslim University’s Women’s College since 2014, has been designated as the University’s inaugural female vice chancellor. She reportedly assumed office as the new VC on the evening of April 22. However, her appointment has been accompanied by complexities, controversies, and overarching implications, including the nuanced interplay of institutional governance and familial ties.

Naima Khatoon’s elevation to the esteemed position of Aligarh Muslim University’s (AMU) first woman Vice-Chancellor marks a pivotal moment in the institution’s storied history as she becomes the first woman to hold the position in the University’s 123-year history. Emerging from a modest family background in Jajpur district, Odisha, she is the only other woman to have held a top post at AMU since Begum Sultan Jahan, who was appointed as the Chancellor of AMU in 1920. Her professional journey includes serving as Professor and Chairperson of the Department of Psychology before assuming the role of Principal at Women’s College in July 2014. She has a diverse background, having taught at the National University of Rwanda, Central Africa, and fulfilling various administrative roles at AMU. She has authored, co-authored, or edited six books and published numerous papers in national and international journals. Additionally, she has supervised fifteen Ph.D. theses and a considerable number of dissertations, specializing in clinical, health, applied social, and spiritual psychology.

However, her journey to this ground-breaking appointment unfolds against a backdrop of intricate institutional dynamics and heightened scrutiny. 

Central to the discourse is the prominent role played by Professor Mohammad Gulrez, the outgoing acting AMU VC and Khatoon’s husband, as he chaired the meeting that included her on the list. The involvement of Gulrez in the selection process sparked contentious debates regarding potential conflicts of interest and allegations of nepotism, casting a shadow over the transparency and fairness of the proceedings. These challenges were mounted in the Allahabad High Court, alleging procedural irregularities, with petitioners questioning the integrity of the process. However, the petition was ultimately dismissed, allowing Khatoon’s appointment to proceed.

The AMU Court shortlisted three candidates for the position and forwarded their names to President Droupadi Murmu for final selection in November last year. Professor Muzaffar Uruj Rabbani, former Dean, Faculty of Medicine, AMU, and Professor Faizan Mustafa, V-C, Chanakya National Law University, Patna, were the other contenders for the position.

This intersection of academia and politics lends an additional layer of complexity to Khatoon’s inauguration. Against the backdrop of the looming Lok Sabha election, the timing of Khatoon’s appointment assumes added significance, with observers interpreting it within the broader context of political maneuvering and outreach efforts to Muslim women by the BJP government. The significance of her role extends beyond the University campus, resonating with the broader Muslim community in India and abroad. In this light, Gulrez’s appointment was reportedly ratified by the Election Commission (EC) with the stipulation that it would not be publicised, and no political advantage would be derived from it. The EC’s approval was conveyed to the Education Ministry on April 9. Khatoon’s appointment is for a period of five years or until she reaches the age of 75, whichever comes first, according to an official notification from AMU. 

Founded in 1875, Muhammadan Anglo-Oriental College was renamed AMU in 1920, becoming one of the oldest universities in India. Despite its long history, AMU has never had a woman vice-chancellor until Naima Khatoon’s appointment. As she embarks on her tenure, Khatoon’s appointment holds profound implications for the future trajectory of AMU, with the AMU community eagerly anticipating her vision. In navigating the complexities of her new role, Khatoon faces the challenge of upholding fairness, transparency, and impartiality, as acknowledged by the Aligarh Muslim Teachers’ Association (AMUTA).

Despite the controversy surrounding the selection process, including challenges raised in the Allahabad High Court, Khatoon’s appointment reflects a step forward in breaking traditional barriers within AMU’s leadership structure. 

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Kavya Vashisht

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I know we were taught to “never look back” or to just “keep moving forward.”  I believe that sometimes it’s healthy to look back. Look back at those who stood still when you went out to be your own person—those people you left so far behind because life moved too fast.

“Well, here at last, dear friends, on the shores of the sea comes the end of our fellowship in Middle-earth. Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King

Do you remember the day you learned how to ride a bike? Or when you were dropped off for your first day of school? It was confusing, and more than that, it was daunting beyond comparison. But after we finally let go and had our first taste of independence, it felt awfully good, so much so that we forgot to look back—back at the person who held onto us until we were ready to be on our own. The moment they took their hands off the back of our bikes or handed us our school bags, we left filled with excitement and fear of what came next while they stood still, watching us move ahead in life. That parent, sibling, friend, or whoever else who guided us through those initial steps is the reason behind our great adventures. And at the end of the day, when we look back at them, we thank our lucky stars for having the guts to leave when, in fact, the real strength came from those who were left behind.

For every young adult leaving for college, for every soldier leaving to defend their country, and for every death in the world, there is a parent, a spouse, and a loved one who had to let go. And while letting go is something that goes both ways, being left behind is often harder than leaving.

The worst part of it all is usually the memories you’re forced to live with while you go about your regular life. My boyfriend encountered this great work opportunity that prompted his move to London. It’s easy to feel jealous or neglected, while the other person enjoys the thrill of their new life. And then you start to hate yourself for feeling the way you do. There are too many mixed emotions, and it’s hard to deal with that, but at the end of the day, you keep trying to make it work anyway.”  – said Sara, a 24-year-old, while discussing her long-distance relationship.

A separation like this usually leaves a person feeling helpless and stuck.

For surrogates, the separation from the children they give birth to can be emotionally challenging. While they may understand the arrangement intellectually, the emotional bond formed during pregnancy and childbirth can still be strong. And after providing the ultimate gift of making someone a parent, they go home alone, feeling like a mother but not actually being one. Similarly, when a soldier leaves, the spouse left behind must carry the burden of managing the household and family responsibilities alone while also dealing with the constant worry and uncertainty about their partner’s safety. This is often overlooked in discussions about military life.

Death is perhaps the most permanent form of separation, leaving loved ones grappling with grief and loss. The pain of losing someone dear can be overwhelming, and those left behind may struggle to find meaning and purpose in their lives without their loved one. For foster children, watching their friends get adopted and leaving them behind can be heartbreaking. They may struggle with feelings of rejection and abandonment, wondering why they weren’t chosen, or feeling like they are not worthy of love. These are a few of the experiences that are often neglected in real life, in literature, or in advice. As one person aptly put it, “Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but learning to start over.”

“Jealous, sad and stuck” said Aryan, are some of the feelings he feels when asked about his friends leaving the city after college while he remained here struggling to find a job. He talked about how, even though he felt happy for his friends, he hated the idea of being left alone which is something that great authors like Hemingway and Didion explored in their works too.

I know we were taught to “never look back” or to just “keep moving forward.”  I believe that sometimes it’s healthy to look back. Look back at those who stood still when you went out to be your own person—those people you left so far behind because life moved too fast. Those are your people because they’ll remind you just how far you’ve come in life, and that’s a good reminder to have.

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Lakshita Arora 

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