Amma I have mostly lost interest in the sex life with my BF. He does not does many things right. I enjoy pleasuring my own self but losing interest when with him. What to do?


Well if one of Amma’s boys ever got lost in the bushes of Amma would pull him up by the ear and teach him a lesson and make sure that he follows it to the ‘T’. Amma hates it the most when one of her macchis starts to lose interest in the wonder down under. Here’s what you can do love, since you know exactly what you want (as you enjoy your own handiwork) sit him down and communicate the same to him. There is a good enough chance that he is trying to work his wand to the best he can but it just isn’t hitting the spot. So show him the way, tell him what you like and appreciate him when he yields. You must also bear in mind the courtesy of returning the favour every once in a while, after all it’s a two way street.


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Hello Amma,

I am doing my B.A (Hons.) first year from one of the All Girls Colleges of the University.

I am a Lesbian, and although I make no efforts to hide it, I haven’t really ‘come out’ to my classmates. My classmates, atleast most of them are pretty open-minded and accepting when it comes to homosexuality, but inspite of that I don’t know how to let everyone (or atleast those who are chill with it) know I am a Lesbian. I am single, so I can’t use the ‘I-was-talking-to-my-girlfriend’ trick either.

Could you tell me how to come out, without really having to shout it out? Or should I just let it be?

Sorry, if I have bothered you.

Thank You! 🙂


Before coming to your query let Amma show you the bright side in your life: you are in an all girls college… a place full of ripe coconuts for you to tap, secondly and more importantly there are open minded people around you… now macchhi shouldn’t you capitalize on these things!

Well before coming out of the closet you must be confident in yourself, and should have made peace with the fact that you are attracted to the same sex. The key is to choose the right person to begin with. If this target macchi of yours is hooked well, the rest of the sea shall be a piece of banana cake with filter coffee. And since you can’t slip it in casually, do go through a sort of script or be confident and careful with the words and tone you use. Once you have your close friends taken care of, go on further and let others or more casual friends know, this will help with your self confidence.

You will also have to brace yourself for awkward questions or homophobic behaviour. Girls’ colleges usually have some separate group or society to help and counsel the baffled macchiis like you, so if not in your college do get in touch with such a group.

So once you have let the people (those who matter) know Amma would love to hear from you and your girlfriend. Do make sure you let Amma know how your curry is boiling and buzz me anytime you want help in spicing it up!


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Amma-ji, what is this ‘dry sex’ all about?


I’m glad you brought up this question, lest some poor Kutti thought ‘Dry sex’ meant getting it on in the desert. Different people interpret ‘Dry sex’ differently. It could mean talking your clothes off, thrusting and rubbing against each other’s bodies without engaging in penetration. Alternatively, it also connotes going through the motions of intercourse, with one’s clothes on. This form of sex is safer, little one, as dry sex can’t result in pregnancy even if the guy ejaculates into his clothes. Even if it is less satisfying, remember that taking precaution is always the right way to have fun and still stay out of unwanted trouble!


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Amma, I am in a relationship with my classmate. We have a fine equation but when it comes to sex…our approach is different. She never seems to give importance to it..GRE, DebSoc, DramSoc and a million other socs…she always has some excuse. How do I strike a balance?


Oh Babu, my heart aches for you! Such imbalances between partners’ desires for sex can pose differences in relationships. But often partners have different notions about a relationship. Perhaps your partner feels that being together and companionship are more important.

Now take control of the situation and don’t act like a machhi out of water. Do not pressure her into anything. What does she perceive sex to be.. try discussing it. She might be scared, talk to her about it. I am sure your concern will ignite the passion within her and with amma’s blessings, the two of you will be tumbling beneath the sheets in no time!


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I’ve done that several times, and the days that follow are full of apprehension about whether or not I’m pregnant. I’ve heard about home pregnancy tests, could you tell me more about them?


Yes, my lovely payasam, home pregnancy tests are a relatively hassle-free way of ascertaining your pregnancy status, atleast better than going to a health centre with your boyfriend and bumping into that pesky neighbourhood aunty. There is significant debate over when the results of a test are most reliable…27 days after conception/10-12 days after a missed period/one day after a missed period…the best solution is to repeat the test periodically.

False positives, though rare, can occur due to consumption of marijuana, asprin, hormones, birth control pills, methadone, tranquilizers, etc. So be careful while popping those pills!

A word of advice: perform the test in the morning when urine is the most concentrated. BUT, my little machhi, you can use them at any time of the day. Pregnancy tests are easier than launching a space shuttle, so calm your fluttering nerves and enjoy your moments of love.



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Ques: Does masturbation really lead to acne?

Ans:  Firztly, thaankyou HT city for that awezzome article that you wrote about me. I mean I always thought I was something for Page 3, but you people are so nice you put me on that first page without my paying you any money. How nice! I’m toadily touched! I have to tell you the truth, the number of questions I have been getting since then has shot up so much that now I have to buy a blackberry and dedicate all my time to DU Beat. No time for private counseling. I feel like such a celebrity now that employing one or two juniors doesn’t seem like a bad idea.

Anyway, I have to say, the number of doubts you kids have about masturbation is totally mind boggling. People never used to be so curious about the practice before. But it’s very impressive that this generation has an extraordinary eye for detail. *winking to self*.

And yes, masturbation DOES lead to acne. That’s not the sole reason for acne, but the body of the teenager who masturbates is home to excessive hormone production, which is a cause for acne. Very few teenagers who masturbate don’t have acne.

I’ll put little bit of my hindi these DUB people taught me to use. I’d say, KUJH PAANE KE LIE KUJH KONA TOH PADTA HAI!!!

Ques: How can I attract some girl in my campus to have sex with me? Just a one night stand I am sure you understand!

Ans: If the person who has sent in this question is listening, I am utterly disgusted with your thinking. You might think sex amma is “chill”, but this, I DO NOT UNDERSTAND! See kids, I agree that at this age, all we try and look out for is “fun”, but my theories tell me to have fun only when you’re understand what you are doing. I’ll explain. In a situation where both the man and the woman (because I’m assuming all of you are of age enough to be called that), arrive at a consensus and none has a problem, there is nothing wrong with what I hate calling a “one-night stand”. However, fooling someone into one is a BAD BAD thing to do. *nods head*. I mean it might not bother you right away and give you satisfaction and pleasure that matches none, but when you’re lying at your death bed, this one thing will come to your mind and flood you with guilt. Let’s not even bring you to your death bed. Remain in that very “one-night stand” bed of yours and imagine being THE FOOL. Imagine the feeling of being tricked into something. I still declare that I’m broad-minded and all that jazz, but this is something I strongly detest! I don’t want young men floating in the campus thinking about attracting “some girl” to have sex. Besides, no kind of research gives out a strategy to have a “one-night stand”. So sorry, Sex Amma can’t be of any help here! *wicked smile*