The good and the bad, the world somehow settles into this binary. It is the inevitable balance that brings us closer to ourselves- a balance that needs acknowledgement.
Joy is a complex emotion driven by our beliefs. Sometimes, you find it in the smallest of things, but more often than not, you lose it somewhere in the madness around. How can you tap something that you have been made to feel incapable of? You wait. You feel the misery, and then live in the joy that follows, it is always a balance. Through all phases of dejection, you become a little more grateful, a little more compassionate, and a little more you. Encouragement comes from the erratic.
At the beginning of each year, we are easily driven by our “resolutions” and ideas. But soon, the zeal lessens. In
these moments of discontentment, sadness becomes a routine. The only joy that becomes, is the idea of complaining. Basking in the January sun in the afternoon; the warm, fuzzy feeling that goes a long way to heal our respective deliriums are all blessings that we sometimes fail to register.
Gandalf, the wizard from Peter Jackson’s, The Lord Of The Rings, says, “I found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay small acts of kindness and love.”
The idea of love and kindness can be difficult to display. The instability and roughness become a part of our lives, and not without some purpose. It is in our conflict that we receive kindness from others and in that, we restore our own balance.
However, at the end of each year, the idea of celebrating the joys of the year that has been, is overtaken by the idea
of complaining about the not-so-happy days. Quite possibly, 2018 was not the year for everyone. But even through
the rifts, there is a lot we can learn.
“Even the acknowledgement of the sadness is very important. Resisting this acceptance to evade self-accountability can also be challenging later,” says Chahak Gupta, a third-year literature student at Hindu College. “This builds up to a troubling self-victimisation induces us to be a little less grateful than we should be,” she says.
“2018 was a challenging year for sure. But I will remember this year for how significant it has been in my life: a not-so-tranquil upheaval of sorts. The problem and the solution followed in a fashion,” says Pratiksha Rana, a student of Fine Arts at Amity University. Sometimes the best thing to do is to live in the moment.
Complaining takes the pressure off of you, but it just passes it on to the listeners. A positive thought, on the other hand, it encourages relationships.
The joy we feel is driven by our belief, and so is the sadness, or any emotion for that matter. So wouldn’t it help to
reflect more on the joys, every now and then? Complaining about the sadness seems to be taking over us, and hence, the joys often tend to feel underwhelming.
When this year ends, maybe we could all think this: “For bringing me closer to myself, for bringing me closer to my
dreams, for inspiring gratitude in me, for introducing me to numerous joys and sorrows, I am thankful for this last
day of an amazing year.”
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