Sex Amma, I’ve been physically intimate with my boyfriend for the past 6 months. We’ve been having oral for a while now and we both want to take it a step further but I am afraid that I’ll lose control. Is it wrong to want to go ahead and do ‘it’ at the age of 18?
Ah to be 14 again and actually worry about your first time! Anyway, the choice to commit to a relationship in a physical and emotional way is extremely personal. However, if you are having doubts about going ‘ahead’ as you put it then its best to talk things out with your boyfriend. Make sure you’re doing it because you want to and not under any pressure to live up to expectations. If you do decide to take it a step further then please take the necessary precautions.
Amma, I’m in a very embarrassing predicament. I’ve fallen for someone I met online and we’ve been conversing on the phone for about 8 months now. He isn’t in the same city so we can’t even meet and I’m ashamed of telling my friends about this. We both are practical enough to not talk about the romantic side and are currently leaving it to friendly conversation but its getting too much for me to handle. Please help. I know this may sound like a dead-end relationship but he’s really very special and I want it to work.
For starters if you’re really sure of the ‘special’ place this person has in your life then you shouldn’t really hide it from your friends in embarrassment. Secondly, you might want to weigh the pros and cons when it comes to investing so many of your emotions on what could possibly be a fairly short term affair. On the other hand, if knowing all this you still want to give it a shot and try to make things work then be sure to take the plunge and not harbor any regrets. At the end of the day its your call, literally.