Q. Amma, I have recently discovered the joys of personal pleasuring and some visual aid. It feels wonderful but the guilt or the inhibition doesn’t go away. I’ve been reading and talking to people and experimenting about the idea but the awkwardness seems to get the better of me.
Will I ever stop judging myself? How do I? Please help!
My self-doubting little macchi, you simply need to understand that this is completely normal. Amma understands where this awkwardness stems from: it’s only because masturbating is considered a taboo in this country. But understand, that it’s as natural a phenomenon as breathing (yes, Amma doesn’t exaggerate when it comes to sex!) If you feel good, then you shouldn’t question your choice of doing it.
Your guilt, or inhibition, shall go away only when you remove the idea of masturbation being something ‘unnatural’ from your mind. All you little dosas and idlis like to experiment with things, use the ‘visual aid’, as you term it, to fuel your imagination. This is just a part of exploring your sexuality and gaining confidence about the same.
Here’s a tiny tip: Don’t listen to what the world says about masturbation. It’s not unnatural and it’s always healthy to talk about it. Don’t let awkwardness shy you away. And just on a side-note, know that almost everyone does it! What’s the harm in a pinch of salt if it adds taste to your meal, after all?