Everybody wants to work on themselves and be a better version of them. However, it is really difficult to let go of old, bad habits, and form new ones, especially on New Year since the expectations from oneself is tremendously high at the start of the year.
It’s the last week of December and you thought that this year would be different. This year, you would not slack and procrastinate to the point of self-sabotage. You make new resolutions, maybe not publicly, maybe in your mind, and decide to stick to achieving it by putting in the work required. It can be anything ranging from paying more attention to your academics, being more kind or as cliché as going to the gym regularly.
Cut to the New Year and it’s the third day of the year and you find yourself staring at the ceiling giving up the resolutions you made, the promises you made to yourself. Is there a reason why nobody seems to stick up to their resolutions, except for those highly- motivated and high functioning adults? Maybe we give up too easily, maybe we never really wanted it that much, maybe we have accepted that New Year resolutions are bound to fail and that everyone fails and you’re not alone. Now, this aim of yours ends up staying on that resolution list with no physical evidence.
You don’t need to wait till the end of December to make yourself better, but sometimes New Year can be a great way to push yourself to make better, smarter goals for yourself. Here are a couple of tips for your new year’s resolutions:
- Be specific: Don’t say I want to ‘get fit’. Let’s make it a quantifiable goal – I want to weigh 5 kilos more or 5 kilos less by this date.
- Be reasonable: Don’t take too much into your plate. You won’t magically be an Olympic athlete by December, and you won’t suddenly have no urge to smoke if you’ve been smoking for a while. Old habits die hard. So, keep your goals attainable.
- Plan your journey: You won’t suddenly know what the right steps are into being a happy, healthy person in 2019. Unfortunately, there’s no manual. You have to know yourself, and plan out what steps you wish to take along the way. Make weekly and monthly sub-goals.
- Expect rough patches: You won’t have great workout days all year round. You won’t succeed all the time when you’re trying to manage your anger. Sometimes you will slip, and smoke one cigarette, or eat a packet of cookies. Expect setbacks, and learn to bounce back from them.
- Expect demotivation: This is the part where we all seem to hit a major roadblock. What do I do when I just don’t feel like it? The trick is to preempt your brain’s lazy response. Make a plan for exactly what to do, when you don’t feel like it, and how you can push yourself.
- Reward yourself: You’re doing a lot of work, mentally and physically, in just trying to work on your goals. No matter how small or trivial your task seems to be, reward yourself! Remind yourself of how far you’ve come, and how much you’ve accomplished!
- Guilt is bad for you: Feeling guilty about not doing as much as you had hoped, having a setback, and general deviations from your plan can actually be counterproductive. If you obsess over just how much you’ve failed, and not your wins, you’ll have a hard time progressing.
Hopefully, at the end of the year you find yourself satisfied with all the hard work you did to achieve that goal of yours and make new resolutions to make yourself even a better person.
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Many of us decide New Year resolutions for ourselves with a plan to improve in the coming year. But many of us fail to keep up with the pledge.
A New Year’s resolution is a pledge one makes in terms of behavior or actions so that the person improves their life or achieves any set goal. It has become a very popular tradition by now. And as a part of the tradition, we too make resolutions for the coming year. It’s just that many of us fail to keep up with the pledge made.
With such grit and determination we make those promises telling ourselves to be a better person. These resolutions are made regarding a lot of things but as per Statistic Brain, the most common ones are weight loss, self-improvements and better financial decisions at 21.4%, 12.3% and 8.5% respectively. Talking about improving ourselves, there wouldn’t be a better time to initiate something positive with a new year. A new beginning to our lives.
But the fact is, those planned improvements remain as an unfulfilled thought within the head. As per Business Insider India, 80% of the resolutions fail by the second week of February! That’s a staggeringly terrible number which reflects how disciplined we actually are towards our goals. These numbers are convincing enough to question our commitment levels towards our objectives. We can take the deciding up of New Year’s Resolution as a simple example of achieving our goals. It is a goal like any other long-term goal and the execution of the goal is the reality of our actions to achieve those goals.
We listen to motivational speeches and successful people talking about attitude, commitment and so on. These decorated words seem so attractive and energizing to us. Only if we could apply these words into actions. According a report published by Forbes a few years back, only 8% of the people carry on with their resolutions throughout the year. The number wouldn’t have risen a lot if it did at all in the years that followed the report. This does not mean that those 8% of the people will be the successful one necessarily, but they certainly have a better attitude than us. And if they are so consistent, don’t they become the deserving ones to taste success?
Again, judging something so vast on the mere parameter of New Year’s resolution would not be valid by any means. But the point being made is that it is these kinds of promises that check our ability and discipline. The resolution is a small example depicting our activities. Our dedication levels should not be limited to a single aim or activity. It should be on all fronts. After all, such an attitude will give reap us the fruits for our good deeds. So why don’t we start with something as random yet meaningful as the New Year’s resolution? At the end of the day, the very aim of the resolution is to make us better.
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New Year resolutions often end up being made with a lot of hope and promise, but end up being discarded about halfway through January.
New Year’s resolutions are very hard to keep. What starts off as an extension of the idealistic “New Year, New Me” ideas is then supposed to carry onto a whole year, which sounds just impractical. The idea that we can instantly, magically transform ourselves only at a particular time of the year defeats the purpose of self-improvement. Sure, for those who are able to accomplish these self-defined goals might see their value, but for most of the general population they seem unattainable.
Maybe, it has to do with the fact that the motivation for resolutions comes only once a year. After that initial push and flurry of excitement towards accomplishing a newly put forward goal wears off, we lack the motivation towards fulfilling that task. However, what must be understood is that instead of seeking constant motivation towards achieving something, we should instead look for discipline. On days when we don’t find the motivation to do things, we needn’t stop and hope for it to arrive by itself. We should continue preparation towards it constantly, even when we don’t feel like. So that, on the days we have the motivation, we are prepared to utilise it the best way possible. Even keeping realistic, easily achievable resolutions becomes difficult when we wait for things to just go our way. Instead, let’s work in a way so that we progress daily, little by little, by keeping our discipline, and not running after motivation. That way, we won’t need the push of “New Year, New Me” or other catchy slogans to remind ourselves of the fact that we hold the power to change, any time we want.
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