Masturbaration is something which Amma believes to be an act of providing a proof for self sufficiency and comfort within yourself, is often equivalent to a mystery for many lovely idlis out there, if you’re one of them don’t worry, Amma is here to spice up your curry.

So, my Idli before diving into details, let me tell you that the myths and taboos attached to female masturbaration hold no relevance in real life. Therefore, have nothing to fear and get ready to explore a new world residing amidst your own body. Just like before the preparation of a dosa, knowing the proper recipe is crucial, in a similar way a proper knowledge about your pleasure parts before you interact with them is very important. So, my idli there are majorly two parts – A) Clitoris, a bean shaped part with the sole purpose of providing erotic pleasure, and B) Vagina, a muscular opening and closing between the cervix and the external opening.

Since now you are well versed with the hidden wonders of your body, it’s time for you to understand their utilisation for seeking the ultimate sensual experience. So, my lovely idli when it’s masturbaration, consider your lady fingers your best friends, trust me they can do some really amazing stuff. Using the tips of your fingers to rub and gently circle around your clit, or using your fingers like a scissor putting each one on the outer side of your labia, increasing and decreasing its pressure works wonderfully for some. The understanding of the technique that works the best for you comes with experimentation and experience.

There are some who like their sambhar spicy for them, amma suggests of using sex toys. There are a variety of sex toys available in the market ranging from dildos to fluorescent colored vibrators, detailed information of which Amma has already provided in one of her previous articles. However, if you are a beginner, it’s better to be organic and use your fingers. One of the very important reasons behind Amma’s infinite love for masturbaration is the complete control one gets to experience in it and since, it’s your own body you know how long and what exactly will make you perceive what you are dying to experience.

So, my beloved idlis it’s time to shift the control in your hands and experience your world of fantasy.

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Masturbation is the word for the glorious art of self-pleasure and sexual satisfaction. It helps you know what your body desires. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Masturbation is not bad for you physically, sexually, or emotionally unless it is something you do not want to do.

“I jerk off quite a lot”, says the character Andrew Glouberman from Netflix’s teen animated comedy series Big Mouth. It’s totally normal for him to get open about it if we look at it normally. After all, you aren’t a jerk if you jerk off. Whatever gender you associate or don’t associate with, the act of masturbating is a natural impulse.

Did you masturbate today? You did or you might, once you come home after college. If you’re denying it, then my friend, I’m sorry but there’s no point in doing so. Of course, it’s a very intimate act but everyone is doing it and no one wants to talk about it. It’s an act of self-sexual pleasure which is sometimes, so much more satisfactory than regular sex. Heterosexual women might relate to this! Solo sex; it might amuse you, arouse you or make you feel
very content. You touch yourself “down there” until you orgasm, or maybe just until you feel a little aroused.

I don’t exactly remember when I masturbated for the first time, but I do remember feeling ecstatic, joyous and a
little sweaty. I discovered masturbation accidentally, like most kids. Honestly, I was very confused and didn’t know
what to make of it. However, I did feel guilty and was aware that this is something that I shouldn’t talk to my
parents about, even with my friends. Heck, I never even talked about periods, let alone masturbation. It felt very
personal and very private. I thought it was my thing, my own little secret. After that, I did masturbate often. Now,
tell me would you ever deny yourself such small pleasures in this wondrous journey called life?
Female masturbation is a mystery to most of the people out there; many try to hide it or deny it. Women masturbate
too! Accept it. The surprise a lot of people express when they find that I not only masturbate, but also admit it
unabashedly, tells how much of a taboo it is. And yes, women watch porn. We do, trust me. Unfortunately, despite
women’s affinity for adult films, most porn is geared toward heterosexual men, featuring women who are clearly
not enjoying themselves, are put in potentially degrading and dangerous situations, and are highlighted by the
camera as the primary person to be looked at.
Is there a specific way to masturbate? In the privacy of your own space, there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate. Generally, when we talk about masturbation we mean touching, pressing, rubbing, or massaging a person’s genitals, nipples, or other erogenous zones with the fingers or against an object such as a pillow. It can also include inserting
fingers or an object into the vagina or anus; or stimulating the genitals with toys such as an electric vibrator.
It’s okay to use toys or stimulate any part of your body that feels good—there are as many different ways to masturbate as there are people. Masturbation does not cause diseases; unless you’re using unwashed hands or an unsanitary object, masturbation cannot cause diseases. And unlike sex with a partner, masturbation won’t lead to unintended pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections (STI).
Another myth that needs to be debunked is that one loses their virginity by masturbating. Virginity is just a patriarchal idea forced down through generations to control a woman’s sexuality. Concepts of virginity are sometimes linked with the idea that your vaginal opening is covered by a membrane that is “broken” by vaginal
sex; it’s all a sham, a way to keep women in check and under control.
There are a lot of benefits of masturbation. It can reduce stress, release tension, enhance sleep quality, boost concentration, elevate mood, relieve menstrual cramps, alleviate pain, and improve sexual life. It improves
sexual health by promoting intimacy, exploring self-pleasure and bodily needs, desires, reducing unwanted pregnancies, and preventing STI’s and HIV transmission.

Masturbation only becomes a problem if it begins to interfere with daily life and relationships with friends, family, co-workers, and romantic partners.

It’s okay to masturbate frequently, infrequently or not at all. There’s nothing wrong with not masturbating, if you
don’t want to. Make whatever choices you do around masturbation based on what feels good and right for you, rather
than based on fears of what others may think or myths about what masturbation can do to your body. When it comes to loving yourself and your body, pleasure isn’t just for fun—it’s a form of self-care. Why not treat yourself?

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Disha Saxena
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Hello my lovely idlis and dosas! Amma knows that after last week, your doubts about sex and the hype around it have lessened. A lot of you also wrote to me about your concerns regarding masturbation.
Don’t worry my lovely macchis, Amma is here to guide you!

Amma knows that masturbation seems like a taboo topic to talk about, let alone raise questions about it. I know you’re shy. Fret not! There was a time when yours truly was shy about it too; but not anymore. Amma has decided to address these concerns of yours this time.

First and foremost, don’t shy away from talking about it. This doesn’t mean that you go on announcing to your whole circle about how good it feels to spill your batter but when the topic comes up, don’t be afraid to admit your indulgence in a little pleasure. It’s nothing to be ashamed about! And you should definitely not deny it.

Coming to your fears about masturbating, it’s nothing harmful and won’t cause any impairment or damage. It won’t lead to an outbreak of pimples on your face, or an increased body hair growth and it certainly will not make you impotent babas. All these ‘reactions’ do not happen because you start masturbating, but because you strike puberty.
Moving on, masturbation is not something only the men have gained monopoly on. I don’t want you to go into shock but women too, indulge in a little pleasure seeking activity every now and then, just like you dudes. So, next time someone talks about it or tells you about them, try not to judge them, but accept and understand their sexual autonomy.

Amma believes that her lovely macchis will not indulge in any self loathing or think too much after getting playful with themselves. There is absolutely no harm in it and no guilt must be felt in seeking pleasure.
Amma has been there, and done it all.


sex-amma1Is it advisable to have sex during periods? Will I get pregnant?

Sex during periods? Rama, rama! But it is so icky, no? And it’s only a few days in a month that you have to restrain those raging hormones of those yours… I remember I had to wait for weeks to unite with my beloved Unnikrishnan in the paddy fields, away from Appa’s prying eyes. Sigh. Those were the days… well, coming back to your question, I personally don’t advocate sex during periods, but to each his (or her) own. As for the second part of your query, there is no time of the month when you are completely free of a pregnancy risk, but it is true indeed that during your periods the risk is comparatively low. You should still use protection in any case. Better safe than pregnant, I always say!

Does masturbation cause erectile dysfunction? I think it’s becoming a habit with me. How do I get out of it?

So many queries about masturbation! I wonder when you young ones get time for your academics! Ah well, just me and my old thinking I suppose. Hmm. Masturbation is actually quite a healthy practice with absolutely no side effects. A little birdie even tells me that sperm is actually good for your skin! Birds and their twitterings aside, masturbation is definitely not the root cause of erectile dysfunction or any other sexual impairments. As to your worries that it’s becoming a habit, the only way to get out of it is to stop doing it. There is no rehab and all that, lovelies! You’ve just got to stop doing it!