My lovely munchkins, here is my sweet and saucy, ready-to-eat advice for you this week. This is for all you people who are confused about your bisexual needs. Fret not, you are not alone. Amma is here to help.
The first thing to remember is that there is nothing “unnatural” about your body. So what if you have feelings for both machas and machis? There is nothing wrong with that. The more variety in your dosas and chutneys, the better it is. Moreover, if you don’t experiment with your body now, when will you do it? Decriminalisation of homosexual sex is clearly sending you a message, muchkin. You can love anyone you want and yet be yourself. So go out there and don’t be afraid to mix and match your recipes. We are often hesitant in exploring romantic relations with the same sex. But my sweet love, we never know where our wet dreams might come from. Only when you engage in new, raunchy, absolutely filthy stuff you realise if you have a taste for it. Just imagine if you discover that you and your friend actually like the same chutney. 
But remember attraction towards different people does not mean that you will be “ravenous” all the time. It just means you will unlock new shades
of your personality. The capacity to like different people might increase, but not our appetite itself if you know what I mean.
For all the confident bisexual anbe (sweetheart) out there, Amma can only moan in jealousy for all the fun you might have. A feast of sambhar,

dosa, upma, and chutney is laid out for you! There is, in fact, sometimes greater comfort and understanding between people of your own sex. This, of course, translates into tingling your taste buds (and other places too) under the sheets. Yum!
So, go out there and be free to explore the curves, the nooks, and crannies of his or her body. Amma is sure you will come back hungry for more.
Read more about bisexuality here.
(Write to sex amma at [email protected] to get all your queries about sex answered.)

I came out almost accidentally over a year ago, after at least six months of intense mental conversations with myself. I remember the exact moment I felt the words come out of my mouth for the first time, to a friend I’d recently reconnected with after years of no conversation. “I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual anyway”, I said. He nodded in acknowledgement, and we continued our chatter as if what I’d just revealed was a perfectly normal statement. The astonishing part in all of this is that it was, in fact, a perfectly normal statement.

I don’t have qualms about sexuality. Ever since I gained understanding of the concepts of equality, I’ve believed that everyone deserves to be loved. Being bisexual was difficult to figure out, but only because it involved an analysis of my actions and feelings since childhood, as well as a re-evaluation of what I’d established as my identity for so long. There were several stages – from ‘I only like men’ to ‘I like women only physically’ to finally, ‘I can see myself marrying a girl’. The discovery was groundbreaking, in the way scientific inventions are. It offered me a fitting definition and a new perspective. I came out to all my friends one by one, and I couldn’t have wished for better responses. The best thing is that it didn’t stop there. My friends are supportive, silently and unwaveringly but also vocally and emphatically. We joke about stereotypes but appreciate our identities. My boyfriend laughingly exclaims that he’s always up for threesomes, and in the same breath gushes with pride for my openness about my sexuality.
While I’ve yet to come out to my parents, the conversation I had with my brother within a month of labeling myself as bisexual is one of my most treasured memories. We’re not the closest siblings, and we’ve never talked about it since, but the knowledge that someone I immensely look up to knows who I am, is liberating.

Coming out can be hard and traumatic. Luckily for me, I have a support system that can’t be rivaled. The stigma attached to the LGBT community, especially in India, is still highly prevalent. However, not every queer’s life has to be full of distress. There are people who care. People in your family, people in your college, friends you’ve known for years, and a worldwide community. This is what most people do not have the opportunity to realise – that it is possible to be queer, accepted, and happy.

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Vineeta Rana

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