Providing guidance to the students of DU since 2008 on matters of sex, dating, and intimacy, Amma is back again this week with her dose of advice.
My partner does not vote. They think it makes no difference. Should I be okay with this?
My dear Chikki,
It is not just your partner—many people still believe that their vote makes no difference. This voter apathy, more common in the urban and educated sections of society, hurts democracy. Beta, while I do understand why many, like your partner, choose to abstain from voting, it is necessary for them to realise that voting is not just a fundamental right enshrined within the Constitution, but also a civic duty.
Look beta, voters often hold a cynical view of the political parties and the candidates, and are disillusioned with the electoral processes and the choices available to them. Adding to this is a general indifference to politics, and the “I don’t think I know enough about politics to vote—waise bhi mere ek vote se kya hi farq padega!” wala outlook. Feeling this way towards elections and voting is not totally wrong—citizens have often been let down by the lack of accountability, corruption, the lack of public infrastructure, rising economic inequality, failures in law and order, political polarisation, and much more. Why would anyone want to vote when almost always nothing changes? Mehengayi, berozgaari aur pradushan—kabhi koi sudhaar aaya?
Despite this, one must vote. While that ek vote may seem insignificant, it is emblematic of the power vested in the hands of a common citizen to shape the government, society and the trajectory of public policy. The constitutional right to vote must not be taken for granted. Ideally, this right is what gives democracy its legitimacy and reflects the collective will of its citizens. While many may argue that the system is a “flawed democracy”, it is still a democracy. When a large number of voters abstain, the democratic institutions weaken and become more vulnerable to manipulation. Not voting not only signifies disengagement from civic life and politics, but also undermines the spirit of “rule by, of and for the people”.
Not voting is actually equivalent to voting for the status quo. It attenuates the voices calling for change, reinforcing the already-established interests and allowing the dominant voices to continue unchallenged. When more and more people opt out, it conveys that there is no demand for reform. Consequently, the result of the election is decided by a smaller and often homogeneous group of voters who favour the incumbent leaders and their governance. This further marginalises the already marginalised—intensifying systemic inequalities. Thus, voting is not for the benefit of the individual, but for the greater good of the society—especially those who are directly affected by the satta. You know what, Chikki? It is actually ironic how some citizens who do not participate in the voting process and choose to opt out, despite having the right and means to do so, often complain about how inefficient the government is and lament the lack of development. Funnily enough, these are often the educated, politically and socially informed youth. Therefore, abstaining becomes a loss of voice, a loss of representation.
Coming back to your question of whether or not you should be okay with your partner choosing not to vote, Chikki, I’d say that this question is more about whether this difference clashes with your core values. I said it earlier and I’ll say it again—voting is not just a right but a duty. One’s views on politics are much more than their views on parties and the candidates who represent them. When a person votes, they vote for an ideology, for principles and for the kind of future they envision for themselves and others—all of which is also tied to their morality. While political opinion says a lot about them as human beings, choosing to entirely opt out shows their lack of concern not just for the country but also for fellow human beings. Dear Chikki, these shared values matter in a relationship. If voting is essential for you (as it should be), it is worth discussing.
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