Providing guidance to the students of DU since 2008 on matters of sex, dating and intimacy, Amma is back again this week with her dose of advice.
Question: Amma, whenever I’m with my partner, I completely lose track of time and get so caught up in the moment that I end up neglecting my schedule and feeling anxious about it afterward. I really enjoy spending time with them, but I’m worried that if I suggest spending less time together, it might affect our relationship. How do I balance enjoying my relationship while still prioritizing my own life and responsibilities?
Dearest baccha,
Ah, lost in love, are you? Well, don’t you worry, amma is here to listen and offer a bit of her own wisdom.
Now, it sounds like you’re having a bit of a dilemma. Losing track of time when you’re with your partner can feel like floating in a dream. But when reality comes knocking, it’s easy to feel a little anxious, isn’t it? Being young and in love, as beautiful as it is, can be all-consuming,
Communication, my dear, that’s the key. Sit down with your partner and pour out your heart. Let them know how you’re feeling. why you’re feeling it, and what you need to find that balance again. Relationships are built on trust and understanding, and as difficult as they might be, honest conversations can work wonders. It’s okay to prioritize yourself and your own well-being. Your partner should understand and respect your needs. However scary it may be, if the conversation does not end up working out, well, it may be time to reevaluate some things.
But fret not, my dear, you are not alone in this journey. Many young souls like yourself have found themselves trying to manage both love and responsibilities. It’s a delicate balance, isn’t it? Wanting to spend every moment with your loved one,
Remember, kanna, setting boundaries is important too. Find a rhythm that works. for the both of you, planning your time together and leaving enough to have a life of your own. Leaving some space for yourself to nurture your passions and dreams can do wonders for your own. mental health.
Mindfulness, my baccha, that’s another secret I’ll let you in on. Take a moment each day to just breathe and be present in the here and now. Whether it’s through yoga, enjoying a quiet cup of chai, or indulging in your favorite book, mindfulness can help you stay in the present moment. And if you find yourself struggling to find that balance, don’t hesitate to seek guidance. Talk to a trusted friend, a wise elder (amma is always here!), or even a professional counselor. There is no shame in asking for help when you need it, my dear.
But above all else, remember to be kind to yourself. Love is a journey, and we all stumble along the way. And before loving someone else, take a moment to love yourself. So take a deep breath, and know that you are not alone. Your amma is here for you, with an open heart and a listening ear. And together, we’ll navigate this. journey called love. Take it from me, it’s all worth it in the end.
With Love,
Amma.
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