The University of Delhi (DU) commenced its new academic session 2019-20 on 20th July 2019, with over 62,000 freshers joining the Varsity this year. Here are a few thoughts, fears, and anxieties that may be numbing the minds of all freshers, and how to cope up with them.
Freshmen hailing from all parts of the country (and some even from outside the country!) have started on their three-year journey with immense zeal and excitement. Apparently, there are a million thoughts flocking in the minds of the new-comers to the Varsity. The diversity in the student composition of the University is immense, and so is in their thoughts. Some possess a desire to shine out in the crowd, while some are willing to remain just the way they are.
But don’t worry, we are here to help! In pursuance of a better understanding of dealing with these thoughts, here are a few things that we did to make ourselves feel comfortable in the same space.
- Nostalgia– This is one feeling that has clenched us every time an era has come to an end, and a new phase of life has started. Sometimes, being nostalgic is soothing. But more often, nostalgia is depressive, and restricts our ability to initiate a new start. Kashvi Verma, a first-year student in Political Science at Kirorimal College said, “I’ve been missing school a lot lately! I really didn’t think that would happen because I was too excited for college, but reaching here, I started to miss all the busy work schedules I had in school, all my friends, etc. I felt welcomed in school, but here it’s all so different, suddenly, that it makes me want to go back. But I am trying, to be comfortable with it.”
Make new friends from your own batch, they are all on the same page as you, and you are all going to make some ecstatic memories together.
Start getting involved in your college’s societies which will keep you engaged and you will get lesser time to think about how the past made you feel more comfortable. (And believe it, this is all going to settle down in a while, just give it some time, that’s all it needs!)
- “I don’t know how to make friends, I’m lonely!”– This feeling need not be stressed over much because everyone has had this coming back to us multiple times for the entire duration of the first semester at least. A lot of times we’ve heard freshmen exclaiming, “What if they (fellow batchmates) judge me for my appearance?”, “Whether I’m impactful enough or not?”, “What if everybody hates me already?” This is something that all of us have struggled with at the beginning of college but we’ve all met the same conclusion, that it will end very soon, and the end is going to be beautiful. Garvit Goswami, a first-year student in Economics at Shri Ram College of Commerce said, “Thankfully, I managed to make quite a few friends on the day of my admission and on the orientation. But if that wouldn’t have happened, I can only imagine how lonely I would have been for the entire first week
You need not break out of your eggshell right in the beginning, but eventually, when you start feeling a little comfortable and confident you will have to make an effort, too, to be able to interact with the people around you and make a space for yourself in this ‘group’.
Don’t be afraid of being judged, everyone with you is in the same place as you and are entangled in the same thoughts as you.
Be firm and confident about what you are wearing, and how you are behaving.
Have a friendly appearance with a welcoming smile- you will end up making a bunch of friends.
- Popularity– Bollywood has definitely created a very misleading impression about college life in its series of “Student of the Year”, “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai” and “Main Hoon Na”. And let’s face it, everybody who’s been acing their fields in the micro-world of school, and comes to college thinking that the same will happen in the large world that you’re exposed to in college, actually has their hopes shattered as soon as the auditions and selection process for the co-curricular societies begins in the very first week. But by the time the third semester begins, the unknown ‘fuchchas’ start to make a name in the societies and in academics, and get to establish themselves in the place of their outgoing seniors. “I entered Hindu College as a little baby girl who needed real babysitting from her seniors. I was pissed at the very thought of having to speak to a senior for the smallest of things. Slowly when I started to realise what real college life was and joined the choreography society, I gathered the confidence to bunk classes, hang out with friends and have fun. The transformation from first-year to second-year is immense, and everyone going past this time will experience it for themselves,” said Urzica Chauhan, a second-year student of B.A. Program at Hindu College.
Join a Society! Societies not only help you polish your soft skills but also help you gain confidence and make a name for yourself.
Try and make friends with the seniors from your department. They’ll help you settle down in the department easily.
- Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)– Fear of Missing Out, or FOMO as we call it, is the anxiety and stress that almost every new-comer to college experiences. It is the stress of having missed out on seemingly important stuff while acquiring other tasks/goals. Mostly FOMO is linked to tasks/goals that your friends are pursuing. Since they’re different from the ones you are acquiring, you fear that you probably missed out on important and seemingly life-changing opportunities, and thus start to become prey to it.
Chill out a bit! College has millions of opportunities to offer, and all of them will come your way. It’s okay to have missed out on a few to prioritise the ones you chose in the first place.
You need to imperatively stop comparing yourself with your friends/batch mates. Understand, that they are different people, with different insights and interests, and it is not important that whatever comes your way, also comes their way, and vice versa. At the end of the day, you will have to prioritise yourself, your choices, and your lives over theirs.
With this being said, we hope that all of our readers who are undergoing these pressurising thoughts, will come out of them as stronger, more mature individuals, and be able to face the real world of college with a more courageous instinct.
Feature Image Credits: The New York Times