Q. Dear Amma, I am going to marry the next month. So can you help me in explaining
A. Aww marriages always make me cry! Congratulations young man. But aiyyo, you make virginity sound like a McVeggie burger! Virginity has been claimed to be every woman’s secret treasure, the golden lotus, her pride. Well, that is just bollywood being silly. In the strictest term, you are a virgin until you’ve had sexual intercourse with the member of the opposite sex, and the woman’s hymen is broken. Also, it is not necessary for your wife to bleed once the hymen is broken. It is a myth. Since you are a good man and this is your wife and your first time, you must make her feel comfortable with the concept, be careful about her needs and be gentle. And don’t forget to use a condom lest you want little children crying “appa!” within a year of your wedding! Trust me son, you will learn the rest on your wedding night itself, wink wink.
Q. Hi Amma. How are you? I had intercourse with my girlfriend while she was menstruating. She complains of pain now, please help.
A. Oh dear, sonny in these times it is best to listen to your girlfriend because we are talking about a very delicate time for her. However, there is nothing unhealthy about having sex during menstruation. In fact, Amma knows a little known secret you must tell your girlfriend- getting an orgasm will alleviate her of her menstrual pain. It’s up to her how she does it. But don’t think periods can avoid pregnancy since there is always a chance of an egg sticking around, so always use protection. And most importantly, have sex only with consent. After all, two happy people is better than none na!