Question: Dear Amma, I like sex and oral sex but my girlfriend hates both of them! Thought we haven’t tried it yet and it has only been 3 months since we are together. Help me!
Ans. Dear Dosa, I can almost understand your dilemma. I remember my days of youth when I liked to experiment in bed but the man just wasn’t up to it. It was so frustrating but what could I do other than wait and try to coax him.
The redeeming factor however with you dearest dosa is the fact that you still haven’t experimented between the sheets. Since you have just started dating each other, there is a huge chance that she’s only saying this because she’s shy! ( Amma has a lot of friends who used to hate oral sex but those naughty idlis have disclosed a lot of classified information.)
Your girlfriend will eventually want to have sex. It is in most probabilities a case of discomfort and embarrassment.
And if even after some time you realise that she has no intentions of indulging in any action, talk it out with her and explore your avenues from there on.
Till then, Amma will pray for you.