Dear Amma, I am a bi man and I think I am ready to go all the way with my boyfriend but I am scared because I have never done it before. Do you have any advice for me?
My Dear Dosa,
I am glad that you are ready to take this step but before the chutney making commences, you should ask yourself a few things. Firstly, be sure that you want to do it. It’s okay to be scared, my little macchli, but if the idea is scaring you a lot, you should take some time to think about it. Communicate with your partner, maybe decide on other things to do before you go all the way. After all, there are so many different ways you can make chutney.
If you do decide to go forward with it, there are some things that you should keep in mind. Firstly, it might be awkward and somewhat painful the first time, but don’t let that deter you. It will take some practice to get used to it, so don’t let a few bad experiences get you down. Communicate with your partner thoroughly and take breaks whenever you need to. Also remember that it can get very messy, and there is nothing wrong with that.
If the messiness bothers you, I would suggest using a douche. You can order them online or find them at chemists. Remember not to use it daily as that won’t be good for your health and just use it at regular intervals. Also, douching is not necessary as a precursor for sex, so just communicate with your vada about what they want and on your own personal requirements for hygiene. Cleaning yourself regularly works just as well.
Remember to use a good silicone based lubricant and don’t be afraid to use a lot, especially the first few times. Always use protection when it comes to anal. The most important thing is communicating with your partner about your fears and establishing a pain threshold and safe word. Remember that it is completely alright to stop and take multiple breaks if the pain is too much for you, also going all the way is not necessary, so do not hold it against yourself if you are not ready.
Have fun, my little dosa.
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