Ques: Amma, I am a really fat/overweight girl, and I am expectedly insecure about it. I met this guy on Facebook and we have become close. He doesn’t mind my weight and he still wants to go out with me and wishes to get into a physical relationship too. I don’t mind the latter but I don’t want to be romantic with him. What do I do?
Ans: Aiyyo, my dear idli; first things first. If you’re slightly on the healthier side, it’s nothing you should be insecure about. Having a confident opinion about your body structure is the most important for a healthy body image. And between you and me, everyone is fond of fluffier idlis (if you know what I mean)!
As for your concerns, Amma is glad that you are aware of what you want. But as good as this is, it is important that you make it clear to him as well that you would not like to get carried away in romance. Because if it isn’t, eventually things between you may become unpleasant just like a bad meal when the chutney doesn’t go well with the dosa! It’s very important that both of you are on the same page so that no one has higher expectations and lands up getting hurt eventually.
With this, it’s also important that you get to know this person in reality. Virtual connections do not always turn out to be a happy affair. And if it works out fine for you, well then, go ahead with the business you want to invest in! And Amma recommends you to share what you both like and spice it up! Rest assured, the experience shall be better than the best rasam you’ve ever tried in your life!
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