Query

I’m in a relationship since 2 years. Everything was going well. But now he says I’m not satisfying his sexual needs. He wants to have Anal Sex with me & I can’t.

Answer

Okay listen up, little machi. Amma will give you a word of advice that she’ll like you to follow for the rest of your life – both sexually and otherwise. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no. Amma knows that you probably love this appam of yours but if there is something you are not comfortable with, nobody should be able to (explicitly or implicitly) force you into it.

Amma’s advice to you will be to tell him that you are not comfortable with it – if he genuinely likes you, he’ll understand. Otherwise, don’t cry over spilt chutney!  There are too many dosas in the world that you can dig into, aiyyo! At the end of the day, relationships and sex will come and go, but you will have to live with yourself all your life – so do what you are comfortable doing.

And at the end of the day, pleasure is about enjoying yourself – doing what makes you happy, and even a two year relationship is not worth trading for your own happiness, little machi!