disha sikka
College: JMC
2nd year , Eng hons
Tomorrow, it’ll be exactly a year after the gruesome 26/11 attacks on Mumbai. Hundreds of people were killed and just as many families were changed forever. We cannot alter what has already happened but the least we can do is learn from our mistakes and oversights and make sure that another terror attack doesn’t leave us reeling.
The onus of our safety doesn’t only rest on the government’s shoulders like a lot of us would like to believe, but a major part of the responsibility lies in our hands as well. Security definitely can do with improvement, but so can our attitudes. How safe are we, really? And more importantly, how many of us are truly prepared for what “tighter security” entails? Will any arrangements ever be enough to rid us of the nagging fear that the attacks have embedded in our minds?
A look at what students in Delhi have to say :
Sonali Hasija, Hindu College
” I think we are in a much better position than we were a year back. I haven seen a sudden improvement in the security establishment. installation of the baggage checking machines at metro stations is an example of this. the level of vigilance has increased substantially. We learnt our lesson well on 26/11 and we have learnt to prevent and cope with similar situations. Therefore, I definitely feel safer today than I did a year back.”
According to me, the focus of this debate is utterly problematic and short-sighted. Terrorist attacks don’t happen because of tight or not-so-tight security; they happen for reasons that are far deeper, far more structural. And a metal detector or a hidden camera will not change anything. For the threat of terrorism to really be uprooted, we need to focus on its root causes rather than its overt manifestation- Kriti Budhiraja
M.A student, JNU
Devkanaya Chakraborty, Hindu College, ” I do not feel any safer than I felt a year back. I appreciate the fact that the security measures have increased, with the frisking and baggage-checking machines installed at various places, but they seem really superficial. I really don’t mind being frisked, but I do mind when the woman frisking people doesn’t check me properly. I don’t mind getting my bag checked, but i do mind it when then person looking at the scanner doesn’t seem to care about what is actually going through the machine. I think I can easily sneak in some objectionable item into, say, the metro stations. If I think I can, then a person who is intelligent enough and has devious intentions certainly can.”
Preeti Gulati, St. Stephen’s College, “Since there hasn’t been a terrorist attack for a year, there really is no yardstick to measure our security cover. However, this too cannot be attributed to better preventive measures because it’s not like we hear of foiled attempts either. The only one that actually made headlines was the one done by the CIA. However I do feel that there is a shortage of manpower in security enforcement services. As a result, the security measures aren’t implemented effectively. I do feel safe. But as safe as I did a year ago. this is something i cannot attribute to the security measures though.”
Devika Dutt : Hindu College :See, even though so far there haven’t been any major terrorist strikes since 26/11 doesn’t mean that the terrorists have been unsuccessful. The very fact that they have made us doubt our security and made a lot of people feel unsafe about stepping out of their house speaks volumes about their success. as the basic aim of terrorists is to instill fear in the hearts of people. I mean, people still fear going to crowded places, and not only because of swine flu. People still feel that the police men, women and other security personnel aren’t doing their job properly, even if they might, thus meaning that the terrorists have in fact, to some extent, succeeded.
Being well aware and being well prepared are two very different things. 26/11 has made India well aware of the threat that constantly stares us in the face. However we are in no way well prepared to tackle the situation. This year we witnessed nothing but diplomatic statements tossed back and forth between India and Pakistan with the US playing referee.
Secondly , Safety for Delhites is a matter of wishful thinking. No one can every really feel safe considering the number of atrocious crimes committed every day. Terror is certainly a big factor contributing to this insecurity but what makes matters worse is the evident lack of protection and security measures undertaken by the government. When daily crimes go unchecked who will stop terror? As it is with the rate of corruption and two faced nature of the government one has lost faith in the judicial and administration system. There is actually no one to guard the ‘guardians’. Politicians care more about the language that an oath is taken in rather than ensuring that the content of the oath is put in practice.
-2nd Year Student, LSR
“ Yes, India has come a long way in terms of its security background checks and measures. I feel that we certainly are better equipped to deal with terrorism. As for the question of my sense of personal security , I safely commute daily to college via autos and the metro , and find nothing wrong with them .”
Mehak 1st year student, Hansraj College
Eschatology is the branch of theology that is concerned with the end of the world or of humankind.
For many centuries, people have been predicting the year, the month and sometimes the day when:
> A violent and sudden end would terminate all life on earth;
> Major social and political upheavals would occur around the world;
> The war of Armageddon would take place in the Middle East;
> God would pour horrendous wrath on most of humanity; and/or
> Christ would return in what is referred to as the second coming.
Here are a few such prophesies, some of which have already overshot their expiration date to no effect, and some of which are still to arrive.
Failed Prophesies:
500 CE: This was the first year-with-a-nice-round-number-panic. The antipope Hippolytus and an earlier Christian academic Sextus Julius Africanus had predicted Armageddon at about this year.
968 CE: An eclipse was interpreted as a prelude to the end of the world by the army of the German emperor Otto III.
992: Good Friday coincided with the Feast of the Annunciation; this had long been believed to be the event that would bring forth the Antichrist, and thus the end-times events foretold in the book of Revelation. Records from Germany report that a new sun rose in the north and that as many as 3 suns and 3 moons were fighting. There does not appear to be independent verification of this remarkable event.
1496: This was approximately 1500 years after the birth of Jesus. Some mystics in the 15th century predicted that the millennium would begin during this year.
1669: The Old Believers in Russia believed that the end of the world would occur in this year. 20 thousand burned themselves to death between 1669 and 1690 to protect themselves from the Antichrist.
1970’s: The late Moses David (formerly David Berg) was the founder of the Christian religious group, The Children of God. He predicted that a comet would hit the earth, probably in the mid 1970’s and destroy all life in the United States. One source indicated that he believed it would happen in 1973.
1991: Mother Shipton, a 16th century mystic predicted the end of the world: “…The world to an end shall come; in nineteen hundred and ninety-one.”
1992-OCT-28: Lee Jang Rim, a Korean Christian pastor, taught that the Rapture would occur on this date, at 10:00 AM EST. It didn’t happen; many of his followers allegedly committed suicide.
1997-NOV-27: The Sacerdotal Knights of National Security report that “A space alien captured at a UFO landing site in eastern Missouri cracked under interrogation by the CIA and admitted that an extraterrestrial army will attack Earth on November 27 with the express purpose of stripping our planet of every natural resource they can find a use for — and making slaves of every man, woman and child in the world!”
1997: Superdave the Wonderchemist took the magic number 1331 and added it to 666 the “Number of the Beast” from the Book of Revelation to get the year of the arrival of the Antichrist and the end of the world.
Sometime in 2000: Many Christian individuals and groups have long anticipated that Christ’s return would happen in 2000 CE. Many of them believe that this event would be preceded by a 7 year period called “The Tribulation.” They expected that this interval would start in 1993 and that 42 months into the Tribulation, terrible things would occur. However, that time passed and the anticipated events did not happen.
2000-MAR: The numbers of solar flares on the surface of the sun goes through an approximately 11 year cycle. This number reached a peak around 1999-MAR. It was suggested that this peak might cause electrical power failures, which might trigger other disasters. It didn’t.
About 1999: Orville T. Gordon (a.k.a. Nodrog) leads a Texan group called “Outer Dimensional Forces.” He expected that UFOs would come from outer space, remove the ODF groups from earth, and destroy the United States with a great flood. It is not clear where all the water would come from.
1999-JUL: Nostradamus predicted that a great king of terror will come from the skies. This has been interpreted by some as referring to a nuclear missile strike: “The year 1999, seven months, From the sky will come a great King of Terror: To bring back to life the great King of the Mongols, Before and after Mars to reign by good luck.”
Recent Past: James Kingsley predicted that:
“To the chosen of the Most High ‘The Christ’ will soon be made known, though many who see (and have seen) the ‘Signs in the Heavens’ will not believe. Those ‘Chosen’ will be given an intense impression (possibly even visually, or heard in music) of where they must go to be saved from the upcoming ‘End of Days.’ These will be few (144,000 persons) and many will be falsely told that they are following the ‘Antichrist.’ This is untrue as the ‘Beast’ is later realized to be ‘George W. Bush’… the ‘False Church’ is ‘materialistic capitalism’… the ‘False Prophet’ is the ‘European Union’ and the ‘Daughter of Babylon’/’Whore of Babylon’ is the ‘United States of America’.”
End of World Theories waiting to happen if we survive 2012:
Before 2019: Tathagata predicted in 1999 that the end of the world as we know it will happen within the next twenty years. an imbalance in gravity will cause the disappearance of all civilizations by a 1000 meter high tsunami, as well as earthquakes, volcanoes and “crustal formations. … Most of creatures are to be exterminated.”
2023: According to Clarence D’Souza, Daniel 12:12-13 predicts the end of the world and of the Universe during this year.
Before 2038: The environmental group, Greenpeace, predicts massive starvation due to uncontrolled population growth. Global warning will melt the polar ice caps and cause massive coastal flooding. Thousands of plant and animal species become extinct.
2047-SEP-14: According to The Church of !BLAIR!, the human race will probably be terminated at 3:28 AM (Soho, UK time). The church teaches, with tongue firmly in cheek, that if the human race does not discard their plastic conformity, then the Gods will withdraw their protection. The Gods don’t want us to worship them; they don’t want sacrifices or even offerings. They just want us to rid itself of our excessive “Normalcy”. At that time, Astro-Lemurs (extra-terrestrials similar in shape to lemurs, but with rainbow colored bodies) will attack the entire human race and beat them to death with gigantic burritos. You have been warned.
The structure of CAT has changed quite a bit. Firstly, it shall be an online test this year instead of the written test which had been going on from time immemorial. Secondly, the number of questions has been reduced to 60-70 and the time duration has been cut short by 15 minutes (Initially, it had been a two and a half hour paper). Since this is the first time CAT is being conducted online, there will be a 15 min tutorial that will take place prior to the examination to make the aspirants familiar with the new pattern. Though the syllabus has not changed significantly, the decrease in the number of questions makes selective studying a highly inadvisable option.
In order to be well prepared for the test just be particular about going through the CAT papers of the last ten years. As for scoring remember that since there is negative marking, it is always better to rely on the accuracy rather than the number of questions answered.
Are the hikes in Metro and bus fares or the overall inflation of food prices affecting you? Or are the problems college fee hikes, diminishing monthly allowances and rising expenditures? Well, don’t let these hamper your spirits. Looking at the general student reaction to rising prices, DUB conducted a study and came up with ways to rid you of financial woes.
Delhi University’s official website houses many advertisements regarding requirements for the posts of Project Fellow, Research Fellow, and Field Assistant for a decent stipend and convenient hours which is open to all DU students.
One can also contact the campus placement cell of his/her college regarding summer internships. Aditi, a student of JMC who interned with Fab India tells us, “Well, the work load wasn’t a lot. We were supposed to create a database of student responses to Fab products. It was fun since we got to travel and meet new people and I also earned Rs. 2000 in less than a month.”
Those interested in writing can apply to various newspapers. Event management companies routinely need the younger lot to manage events where they can earn a whopping Rs. 500-1000 a day! A usual internship process comprises of selecting candidates on the basis of their C.V., followed in most cases by an interview.
Divya from St. Stephen’s College interned with the reputed PricewaterhouseCoopers where she had to work on transfer pricing as well as go through annual reports of various automobile firms. She says, “Since I worked under a mentor, I received valuable and enriching work experience. Besides, I also did a voluntary project on gaming and gambling and earned a total of Rs. 6000 in 6 weeks.”
A common problem faced by undergraduate students is that they are not usually considered for internships given their lack of experience and limited course coverage. Here MSF (Mathematical Science Foundation) provides relief. It is a student oriented body and considers them on the basis of merit, past experiences, and recommendations from professors. A lot of Commerce, Mathematics and Economics students also turn to banking internships which are easy to get and good for the pocket.
Of course, DU cannot be left behind in creative ways to earn extra bucks. A few girls were selected and paid for ushering in guests and visitors in the recent Pragati Maidan Trade Fair. Many people earn their way through their blogs. In fact, Geetika from the DUB team got a job offer to work with a New York based newspaper from somebody who happened to read her blog!
News around campus is that market research companies need respondents for Group Discussions and surveys. A decent pay per respondent, food and travel is your return if you decide to work with them.
North campus students may especially be familiar with the lucrative business of selling books and notes at the end of University exams to many book shops in Kamla Nagar.
BACK THEN
So let’s accept it. Till a few years back, life was convenient.
There was a school bus that was paid for. There were some parents who went a step ahead to ensure their dainty darlings don’t miss the air conditioned travelling too much. There was the majority who stood in the balcony in their night suits, asking the driver to wait for two minutes after five minutes of the repetitive plea.
AND NOW
So let’s accept it. Life is tough. This crib started a year or two back and is going to remain.
There’s a budget.
There’s a need to be everywhere, there’s a need to fit everything in, there’s a need to convince yourself that you’ve grown up and there’s a need to check everything off that ‘to-do-list’.
All this without commuting?
We’re students and we’re commuting in the capital city of the country. The former brings us a fast life and the latter sprinkles us with distances we always assume will shrink. How we wish the former guaranteed us our own vehicles and the latter provided smooth travel. The reality lies in inevitable dependence on auto walas who can never assure you a safe travel. The reality lies in congested buses where marking a territory for the toes proves to be difficult. Completely ignoring the lack of space they provide, we’ll be kind and give them some space here.
AGONY AUTOS
As students of the varsity ,each one of us has a long drawn association with autos and have often complained of being overcharged. A list of some preposterous excuses students claim to have encountered, Pardon the use of a not-so-alien language for authenticity cannot be compromised.
- “10 rupaiye zaada lagenge kyunki traffic hai.”
- “Hum nahi jaenge kyunki sawaari nahi milegi.”
- “Jab se gaon se waapas aaye hai,meter nahi chal raha.”
- “Meter se fayeda nahi hai kyunki chillar nahi hai.”
- “ Wahaan toh jam hai. Aap bhi mat jao.”
It won’t be soon before their importance fades away. Need I say, they’re crawling all over the city. All the whining and tomorrow morning you’ll still be seated on those jazzy auto seats staring at the meter and hoping for it to work.
BUMPY BUSES
They’re frequent, cheap and safe. If you’re uncomfortable, try re discovering the best playlist on your I Pod. The rugged journey will transform into an extraordinary drive. The DTC and Blue line buses dominate bus travel in Delhi. The past few years has seen buses connecting Delhi to the NCR as well. Also with CWG round the corner, the service has seen the addition of low floor ac buses which guarantees an inclination towards the commuter’s comfort, now, high on priority. For beginners at bus travel, confidence is the key word. Be sure of your route and travelling from Point A to Point B will never be a task, left incomplete.
MANIC METRO
It’s still fragmented, but when asked about the amount of relief the Delhi Metro has brought, to the commuters and the traffic alike, one only sees heads nod in agreement. It’s on the verge of connecting the entire city and the city to the NCR and it certainly is doing wonders. The concept is magnificent but admittedly the recent past has highlighted its defects as well. However, the convenience it provides to the students of Delhi University is a glorious achievement. Vishwavidyalaya Metro station of North Campus is a mere twenty minutes from CP which is suitably connected to almost all parts of the city. It has marked its existence in West, East and Central Delhi. Last week saw it’s gracious entry into Noida. For students commuting from there, the long wait for buses has now been replaced by a simplified card swipe. Saying that it’s widely used is an understatement. The stations are well-equipped, the service efficient and the overall system, user-friendly. The Metro has almost fallen victim to inflation and thus, like any other essential commodity, we got to pay more to use it!
CLASSY CARS
Let’s not be unkind to a those who’re lucky enough to steer their own vehicles. It’s not essential for everyone to experience the “tough life”, really. For those bestowed this rare privelegel. Realization must not have struck yet, but you can and must at least consider converting your vehicle to CNG. One ride from North Campus, all the way to South will cost you not more than twelve bucks. It fits your budget with ease, doesn’t it? Also, you’re doing your bit to benefit the environment. And if this isn’t motivation enough, catch the next show of 2012!
Two things. One, they’ve taken leaps to make our life easy. Two, it’s our birth right to crib. So amongst all the whining, waiting and hyper-ventilating; amongst all the irritation, frustration and dissatisfaction; let’s not take a moment and instead, do our “own thing” to say cheers to the mad travelling that Delhi has to offer with a constant hope that OUR DELHI, OUR CITY, STAYS CONNECTED.
1) Hoard all your belongings and any other stuff you manage to nick and save it for your after-life
2) Pesky neighbours who steal your parking space? Accidentally-on-purpose crash into their car and say “Woops! But the world is going to end anyway. What’s a dent?”
3) Bunk all your classes and if the teacher questions you about your low attendance, clutch your heart in horror and exclaim, “The world is ending and all you care about is attendance?” Ditto for assignments, projects etc.
4) Procure a spaceship and alien suit from somewhere, adopt an evil laugh and take credit for the end of the world. If you’re low on funds, a long beard and a name that sounds very much like the American president’s might works as well, though…
5) Hide under a blanket in some dark corner of your house and wait
Are we tired of Living?
Judgement Day, The End of the world, Apocalypse, whatever be the nomenclature destruction theories have existed from time immemorial. Religions, cultures and races all embrace the concept with disturbing enthusiasm. Atleast in days of old the destruction of the world was still spoken of something likely to happen far into the future. An End was inevitable, but all those who preached it lived comfortably with the thought that they would be long gone by the time it chanced to occur, by when it would be someone else’s problem.
Now however people, and the youth especially, are over eager to believe in ancient and vague predictions which predict the end of the world as we know it, literally or metaphorically. The morbid fascination of recent generations with large-scale destruction and disintegration of society can be seen through countless highly grossing and often critically acclaimed films such as The Day After Tomorrow, Terminator, Artificial Intelligence, War of the Worlds, Total Recall, On the Beach, Akira, Battle Royale, Ghost in the Shell, Serenity, Twelve Monkeys, The Matrix, and most recently 2012. Dystopian novels, graphic novels and movies are on the rise, which see no future for man save either complete social breakdown or an apocalyptic future. Ridiculously old and arbitrary predictions are taken seriously not because the sources are deemed particularly trustworthy, (indeed countless such destruction theories in the past have proven to be mere hogwash, in the event of the fact that we are still alive today) but rather because people want the predictions to come true. People rather seem to want the day of complete annihilation to arrive and to experience the excitement of it in their own lives, an ironical wish considering there won’t be much of that life left afterwards.
Many Psychologists have argued that the rise of dystopian (as opposed to utopian) theories, i.e. bleak pessimistic theories which see anarchy and destruction as the only future for mankind, is a direct result of the depression felt after witnessing the barbaric uses science and technology, the epitome of human progress, has been put to. The most pessimistic and cynical literature for example came from Japan after the Hiroshima and Nagasaki bombings. Similarly after the World Wars there was a back lash of dystopian science fiction and after the recent concern over excessive global warming came the movie The Day After Tomorrow, which began with the scenario that there was snow in Delhi due to the warped weather conditions caused by Global Warming and ended with, you guessed it, total destruction. Again after the announcement of the experiment to simulate the Big Bang in 2008 a string of emails, websites and newspaper stories discussed the possible destruction of the world due to a ‘black hole’ the Collider may generate. As it stands the experiment was delayed and is now scheduled for 2012, the very year the famous Mayan Long Count Calendar ends at and which has sparked the latest End of World debates, even going so far as to inspire the latest sci-fi release 2012.
So perhaps it really is us getting wary of science and its consequences. Perhaps we have finally realized that humans are now speeding down a steady path of self destruction from which it would be impossible to turn back, so that a sudden and large scale destruction of the world might indeed be more palatable than a slow but steady decline.
On the other hand one could argue that it is simply a lot of people who are very bored with an increasingly clockwork existence who are forced to indulge in these imminent destruction theories so that atleast the portion of their lives between now and the destruction date seems slightly more worth living. Daily frustrations seem unimportant when we believe that the institutions causing our problems will soon be wiped off the face of the earth. Exams aren’t so irksome when you can imagine your examiner’s face blown into smithereens. Losses don’t matter at a time when everyone’s going to lose their lives in one big gala party!
In other words with the finality of Doomsday around the corner, life, or whatever is left of it, seems to get interesting again. It’s only a greatly messed up generation which needs to look forward to a doomsday to be infused with the enthusiasm to live through daily lackluster life. Worse still the promised apocalypse is probably not even going to happen, leaving our generation even more disillusioned than before.
So it’s best to pull out of this morbid comfort group before you get in too deep. Deal with the thought that the world is not going to end. That terrible though it may sound you shall live through it. Just enjoy the dystopian movies for their special effects, eat a chocolate when depressed and bung yourself out of the window if you can’t stand classes anymore. Whatever you do, for God’s sake (he did put in a lot of effort creating it after all) stop wishing for the world to end. The world has enough problems as it is.
It’s been a year now. But the horrors of that fateful night of 26th November haunt us still. They manifest themselves in the form of the stigmas and the feeling of fear and guilt in the common man which is exemplified in the following account.
Here comes the one to Dadar. It’s vacant. Through the train I try to keep my eyes on the fair boy dressed in a gray suit on the next platform. As the local is about to stop he starts towards the ticket counter. I look at the train and then back at the position. There is a black bag there sans the boy. The shrieking breaks of the local calls all commuters. I start moving towards the second class compartment with my eyes unmoved. I then turn around to look at the ticket counter. Not there. The bag is still there. I can’t locate him. Still walking, I glance at the exit and the PCO. He isn’t there. My eyes panic and my brain raises an alarm and orders me to do the same. But my body does not react as that of a dog trained for 15 years to do the same thing. I send in statements of “oh! Its nothing”, “keep walking and board the local”, “someone may have forgotten it”. I increase my speed after a prolonged blink coupled with an exaggerated sigh. Three steps and a jump. I am in the bogie. I say an underplayed hello to the known faces. And try to get a glimpse of the bag. I can’t, too many people coming in from that gate. The train leaves the station. That boy looked like my officer Bilal Ahmed. Was fair. Wore black. He did not have a mustache. Just the beard. He was looking a bit tensed too. What if the bag had a bomb? What if the boy was a terrorist? Should have I done something? Yes. I should have. Oh no! I feel like getting off the train. The train halts. This is my station. I get off with the rush, and the mechanical feet start doing their work. I reach my office. Put my tiffin under the side table next to the sofa in the visitors’ area and take my cushioned chair outside without wishing anyone. I look in disgust at my Tavor 21. I have not used the rifle ever. I do not know how it is done. ‘It’ – the thing I am paid for. The cushion pinches me today. The rifle points at me. And then comes our manager Mr. Bilal Ahmed along with the same fair boy in the gray suit and the black bag. He is his brother Jamal. Sahib had told me that he would join the bank soon. I look at him and surprisingly I am not surprised. Because the fact remains- Had it been the evening of 26 /11 and not today-had it been Kasab and not JamaI- I would have done nothing.
-Tanmay Dhall
Q: You know I don’t mean to brag or anything. So please trust me when I say that I’ve always been asked out. I’ve always had to answer and have never popped the question myself. A few days back, However, I had this “big Bollywood” moment when a girl with the most gorgeous hair and the fairest skin walked into my class and caught me with my jaw dropped. I’m not a loser if that’s the picture being painted. But I really want to ask her out and give it a shot. I know you feel like you’re answering a 13 year old, but I need to know how to get I started? I want to give it a shot and I need help. Also, I could be a 13 year old, if it helps.
A: Eem-press-eeve. I see you are trying to be funny. Trying to tell me that you’re not that bad after all haan. So I’d say use it on the girl and not me! Many people find this the really difficult bit. But you’ve got to remember this one thing-‘if you don’t ask, you’ll never know!’. Everyone feels that rejection might come their way, a big “NO!” might be flung at their face. But there is a possibility of a “yes” too, isn’t it? A little optimism would help, won’t it? Then again, you won’t know until you ask.
I always feel that asking some out is a way to let the other person know that you’re interested. I’ve seen so many people who see their current boyfriends as “friends” earlier and then suddenly develop massive amounts of “that” feeling when asked out. So a “no”, eventually undergoes transformation and gets replaced by a “yes”!
I’m afraid that the practical side of asking someone out doesn’t have a recipe. It differs in every situation. You’re not a loser now but you’ll be if you don’t give it a shot. Reason enough? Now go, dedicate a joke to her!
Q: I started having sex because I though “everyone was doing it”. I didn’t even ask myself whether I was ready for it. I thought that the situation involved two people and those two were happy in it. Now when I think about it, I feel like a disrespected my body. I engaged in casual sex with a lot of confidence, but I’m not very proud of it now. I really feel like the fool to have blindfolded myself and not seen the consequences. So, what’s so attractive about casual sex? I’m repenting it now, but why did it feel good then?
A: You’re asking me this question only because you want me to re-assure you that the fact that you did do it then, wasn’t entirely your fault. I can sense it. And I will tell you exactly what you want to hear.
Whatever you think, it is a fact that casual sex is very popular and for almost everyone, it’s serving a purpose! We’ve all been brought up to see sex outside a long-term serious relationship as wrong. So, we do tend to develop this feeling that casual sex is more exciting or is an act of rebellion that one may find appealing. As a result there is a great degree of mystery and unfamiliarity involved and that further adds to the appeal. Also, both parties are aware that the sex is not going to lead to a relationship. So the act is relaxed . It can be a bit of enjoyment, so there’s no denying that it’s very attractive and lures half the population of this world. Yes, you were being stupid. But that could just be justified as a part of growing up. So the regret must be nullified!
But from now on, HAVE CONFIDENCE AND HAVE RESPECT!!